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Don't know what to do.

4 years ago · 3 · I need advice, +5


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So I'm 27 and F and I feel ashamed to say that I secretly self harm and cut when things get too much or when I feel sad. If not I drink til I feel numb or do other stupid things; I think because I don't care or I just want to feel something other than what I am feeling. Which feels like pain. I am terrified of facing my thoughts and memories sometimes and my I go between feeling like I should get help to feeling like I should just quit being a baby and pull myself together and the fact that not many people know and that I act so well makes me sometimes think well maybe I am just fine and overreacting. We all have different ways to cope and I'm not always sad and bad. But the days that I am, I don't feel like I'm me. Today and yesterday I felt like that. Is it okay that 98% I want to die? Is it okay that the thoughts of self harm and killing myself enter my head frequently? That today I was smiling though I can amongst feel the invisible noose around my neck and cutting my throat right now feels like it would be such a relief? I don't know. I don't know how to explain it or why I feel it. It almost feels like I should be happy? Why am I not happy? I don't know. And in the moments of self harm I don't even think about reaching, I have a one track mind. And the 2 friends I have told just don't understand why I do this and why I can't reach out during this period. I've been given a crisis number, I stood on my balcony and I wanted to jump but didn't. At what point do you call a crisis number? I don't think I would deserve to call that number, what if they think i'm just wasting their time, what if I can't change. I wouldn't actually jump and if i did I wouldn't be calling the number, i would try to make it so nobody knew I was even gone or where to find me. I would die alone.

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  • Novni Guest · 4 years ago

    It is okay to feel. Everyone feels. Some people feel everything more strongly than others. One of my friends came up to me and it seems like a bit of the same situation. We have a understanding that whenever he gets into that negative spiral he can call me or just come by. We don't have to talk or anything just be.

    I hope if you don't feel comfortable letting people close to you help. You can always go to a professional. You are not the first person to feel this way. You just need some help to figure things out.

    I am thinking about you <3 and hope you will be allright some day

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  • Novni Guest · 4 years ago

    It's okay

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  • Novni Guest · 4 years ago

    Maybe try and seek support from a therapist. Or someone else you can trust. It helps to talk about it.

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