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Im 33 married and I loved my wife but these feelings for the other women are crazy strong and I don't know what to do. She drives me crazy when she talks to me I get all stuttering and flustered and my heart nearly beats out my chest. I feel like it's make or break time in my life and don't know whether I should go for it or try and let it go. I have to see her dailly and there's no way out of so would have the reminder everyday.................
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Okay so Im not sure whats wrong with me. I just got out of a relationship a few months ago and at first I wasnt missing him but now.... I feel so empty and alon...
damn man.
ReplyHave you tried to get the spark back with your wife first ?
ReplyYes
ReplyConcentrate on that and make concience on how would you feel would it be the other way around. I am sure you would feel cheated. Move away from that, create distance, you can still see a person every day, be civil, and not get fooled by a rush of passion. Remember all that you've built with your wife, all the memories, all the good things she's done for you as I am sure you've done for her. I
ReplyI think you just need to have that love for your wife back. When do you see this other woman?
ReplyEveryday at ours sons school they are in the same class and are friends and they do karate together.
ReplyWhat could you have possibly bonded over?
ReplyNo idea
ReplyWhere you in love youth her?
Reply*whyre you in love with her?
ReplyWell, perhaps thw wife feels the same way. Honestly it's time to have a good talk to the wife, communicate. Perhaps you negotiate an open marriage, poly lifestyle or even just a hall-pass. The alternative is bitterness and/or lies followed by the eventual breakup.
You could try to control your feelings, they may not be recipocated but in the end you need 'something' and sometimes it is only knowing you are still attractive.. spouses can't do that forever.
So think, then talk and be honest. Your wife might be able to help.. however it will be quid pro quo so.. how do YOU feel about her getting some new action in the future?
ReplyI know she would not to open to a open relationship it's a conversation we had when we where younger be together since we where 16 . Don't really want to tell cause all though the spark has gone between us I don't want to break heart.
ReplyThen you will break her heart even more later, secrets don't last. She will one day learn you not only no longer find her attractive but you lied and cheated. So she loses not only you ability to love and trust you but likely her best friend.
It's your life and every choice you make determines your eventual fate. Without change she will lose you anyways, so why not try to save everything by growing. She might not like the change but then.. she might prefer that to the alternatives.
ReplyThen leave her. I am sure she can find someone who will.
ReplyThe grass is never greener on the other side. You're wife probably loves you unconditionally, she gave you her life, promised herself to you. Stop seeing her daily, and appreciate you're fucking wife!!!!!!!!
ReplyLove dare. Google it. Read it carefully. Follow through. At the end of it. If you don't feel differently about your wife and marriage. Then it's time to probably let go. Always try first with your spouse. Never cheat. Always leave.
But seriously. Speaking from a person who did the book. Its worth it.
Sometimes its not an easy marriage, sometimes it is. Try the love dare.
ReplyThe ungettables are always lucrative
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