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I met this great guy when I was 22.
He is the perfect guy every girl has a crush on. I will name him Chun.
We had a small online group who likes to discuss Chinese Literature and we will meet up once or twice a week and keep adding and introducing new people into the group. So when Chun started wooing and confessed to me a few months later, I didn't hesitate to say yes.
I wasn't very pretty or particularly stood out in the group so when I started dating him, I was in the "popular"crowd with him and his friends. They are very nice supporting bunch and made me come out of my shell.
Chun has a older step-sister, I'll call her Sor, who is super hot and when he introduced her into our group, a lot of things happened.
She dated B who was a friend of Chun and also in our group. They dated for 2 - 3 months, had problems, and they broke up. B left the group and stopped all contact with Chun. I tried to salvage their friendship but Chun told me not to be involved.
I didn't like how Chun acted in front of Sor, like he was so protective of her. He even got into a fight with another guy in the group because he was hitting on Sor.
Because Chun was always this "perfect" guy, people around me kept telling me how lucky I was, and how cool it is that he protects his sister. I had a nagging feeling inside me because the Chun I know, would never fight a guy who was hitting on me.
I told him how I didn't like it and that Sor is an adult and she can handle her own problems. Chun told Sor and she came to me, reassuring me and telling me that they are just like real brothers and sisters are.
In the course of the 2 years that I am dating Chun, I've seen Sor in plenty of bad relationships. Sor's relationship just doesn't work out, one way or another, so everytime it happens, Chun will be with her, comforting her and telling me that she needs him etc.
She always made herself out like a victim and the group that was once both me and Chun's friends kind of changed over to more or Sor's friends and I gradually started hanging out with my own group of friends.
I always try to tell myself not to be jealous not to be petty and to be the perfect girlfriend to my "Mr Perfect".
Even though I was shy and quiet before then, I actually changed into someone who is more outspoken, and friendly so I actually also started to have my own clique within that group of friends and even then, they told me how perfect Chun was.
I started hanging out lesser with Chun, Sor and their group of friends and hang out more with my own friends who meet more often and has sleepovers etc.
Then I met Choi, he isn't like the other people who think Chun is perfect. Whenever people tell me how lucky I was, Choi told them Chun is luckier. Whenever Chun is out with Sor and I wasn't allowed to disturb them, I would hangout with Choi. He listens to me and we had a great friendship.
Chun started hanging out more with Sor. So I turned to Choi and cried on his shoulders when it happens because I am supposed to be this perfect girl and not be jealous and I hate how insecure I'm feeling. No one else sees it and whenever I spoke about it they think I shouldn't be insecure and to trust a wonderful guy like Chun.
One day, Choi told me he love me. I told him that I love him too. But I have Chun and this is wrong. Choi shortly left the Chinese Literature group, I was sad but also relieved to see him go. I couldn't cheat on my boyfriend, but at the same time I lost someone I could pour my heart to.
Chun proposed on our 2nd year anniversary and I accepted because what else do you say to a wonderful guy like Chun?? After I told Choi about my engagement, Choi left the country and we stopped contacting each other.
It was for the best, I didn't want to hurt my best friend.
After our engagement, I started to see Chun lesser and lesser. I didn't understand why. He was hanging out with Sor more... He would come to the bridal shop, try out his suit, take a photo for Sor, gets upset. Says that Sor is going through a rough time and leave.
It started to come to a point where our mutual friends are telling Chun to pay more attention to me and our upcoming wedding. I finally asked Chun what is wrong and he replied "Sor is jealous that we're getting married so she needed more comfort"
Then what about me? I am planning our wedding alone. Doesn't he care? I gave him an ultimatum. Be there for our wedding preparations or I will call the wedding off.
I forbade him to reply to Sor's messages and made him choose our wedding banquet meal with me.
Guess what? The moment we were done he was out the door to Sor's house and I didn't hear or see from him for 3 days.
After that, he sent me a text message that "maybe we should call off the wedding". I ask him why and he said the wedding is making Sor unhappy.
I asked him where he is , and was still trying to salvage the situation. He was at his parent's house so I went down there crying and demanding an explanation. He didn't say anything just look so sheepish and his parents are asking him why he wants to call off his wedding. They are upset when I said it's because of Sor. Seems like their daughter is a trouble maker and always making their son in trouble. His father said that we are not to call off the wedding but Chun had a huge quarrel with his parents and I wanted to stay overnight with him at his parent's house.
Chun was acting abnormally and I was worried. He didn't want me to sleep in his room which I had no idea why. In the end, he left his parents house in the middle of the night to go to Sor's house. (I later learnt that he promised Sor he wouldn't sleep with me again as she was jealous)
The next morning, I went over to Sor's house with my sister and demanded to see Chun, but Sor said he is at work and told me she is sorry but they are in love.
I didn't know what I felt then, betrayal, hurt definitely. I asked Sor if she doesn't know Chun is about to be married to me? And why didn't she stay away. She said that She doesn't know why she was jealous and that she's sorry. I told her that her sorry meant nothing to me, and I just want her to leave Chun alone.
She said that Chun was the one who questioned it. I asked questioned what? She said he was the one that questioned if she love him as a man, and she did . And he loves her too.
I always believe that if a man loves someone else, I have to leave and so he can see clearly who he wants. So I texted Chun to meet me after work . We went to the restaurant that night he proposed to me, had a nice dinner and took a walk. I told him I know about him and Sor. He was very sorry. I told him I don't want him to be sorry, I just want to know what he wants. He says we should call off the wedding. I said is it for him? or for Sor? He said for all of us. I said ok.
I asked him if he is gonna leave her. He said he cannot hurt her that way. So I asked him if he can hurt me this way? He did not reply. I told him I will call off the wedding. I will take our cats. I will pack my things from his house now and leave. (We were both crying and he was begging me not to leave) . I said if he wants me around, Sor cannot be around anymore. So I went over to his house and pack my few belongings I left there , his parents were there too and begging me not to leave him. I told them what happened between me and Sor, and I cannot be with a man who doesn't love me. Chun was very upset too he said he never said he doesn't love me. I said he doesn't love me as much as he loves Sor and he said nothing.
Anyways, I called off the wedding. People asked me what happened, I smiled and said nothing, even Choi asked me and I said nothing.
B contacted me when he saw what happened and asked me was it Sor that caused it. I said yes. B said Sor has issues. She probably was jealous of how Chun and I were together and decided to ruin us . B said Sor introduced him to drugs, and she is a bad influence to Chun. I said it is none of my business anymore.
I stayed at my sister's place and cried my days away, I was like a zombie. People asking me what is happening. Chun told them, he had some family issues and had to call off the wedding. One day a girl in the Chinese Literature showed me a wechat status of Sor, She posted "Thank you - it was cancelled as you promised". Turns out Chun promised Sor he would call off the wedding before her birthday. The girl said that Sor had been uploading a lot of pictures of her and Chun and asked me if I was alright. I said I wasn't but it doesn't matter.
She said she was sorry to hear that, and I said I was sick of people being sorry to me. I sent a text message to Chun , I said I hoped Sor liked her birthday present, it was after all from me too. I felt like an outsider who was the obstacle on their road together. I asked him was I just someone to make Sor jealous? I told him never to appear in my life again and I want to break up with him.
He replied one word. "Ok."
Shortly afterwards Sor uploaded a recent picture of them together and wrote caption : " 有情人终成眷属" which translates to " love will find a way"
Then I saw many people congratulating them. The same people asking if i was alright were saying congrats, telling them they belonged together.
I left the Chinese Literature group. Everything I did reminded me of Chun and I had a very hard time, I hurt even just by breathing. I left the country and went backpacking around the world...
I met Chun a year later. He was still the same. He said he missed me. He missed my smiles and our time together. I asked him if he was still with Sor, he said he is and he is having a very hard time. I asked why, he said because she doesn't trust him, he can't speak to any girls. I started to message Chun in secret but Sor found out, she confronted me at work one day, I said he was miserable and I just wanted him to feel better and it's not fair for him to be treated that way by her after they both betrayed me.
Chun came to my house that day and apologized. I just grabbed him and kissed him and we had s*x. While Chun lay sleeping, I sent Sor a message with Chun's sleeping face. When Sor arrived, Chun was on his knees begging for her forgiveness, he was furious with me. I said I was sorry, before they both could say anything, I said, See? Sorry doesn't mean a thing, right?
Sor said Chun will never come back to me. I said I never wanted him again anyway. They both said they hate me and they left.
Years later, I had a FWB relationship with a guy, let's call him Taec, and one day after s*x, I asked Taec who else is he sleeping with just for my information. Turns out he had an affair with Sor who was married to Chun. I went to Chun's house and told him that Sor is sleeping with my "boyfriend" Taec. Chun apologized and told me Taec isn't good for me. I said " so do you." and I left.
Never heard from them again and I hope i never will.
By the way, after my broken heart was healed , I contacted Choi again. I regretted how I rejected him for a cheating bastard like Chun, but when I saw Choi, he was already engaged. I was invited to his wedding and I still have a great friendship with Choi and his wife to this day.
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