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My ex boyfriend and I dated for around a year and a half. Around two months ago we hooked up, except he was in a relationship with someone else at that time.
After the hook up we (mostly I) decided that it's best if we didn't talk for a while to get over each other, so he blocked me on every social media possible except for one.
Recently things are starting to get better between us, he lifted the blocks and started following me again on social media, although I feel like ever since he started following me again he's taking everything as a contest to "who has moved on better". I stayed together with him for a year and a half and he has never posted any picture of us, but right now he has his profile picture of his girlfriend, and he keeps posting stuff of her all the time, even though they've only been together for like 4 months!
The whole competitive feeling is getting on my nerves too often, makes me feel seriously bad and anxious, but I also feel like maybe if I tried becoming friends with him the feeling would fade away, except I don't want him to think that me trying to be friends is equal to me trying to get back together.
any advice?
PS: I actually really miss him as a friend, we had some great times
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Why didn't you tell his girlfriend that he's cheating on her? Why didn't you convince him to tell his gf that he's cheating on her with you? Are people do cowardly to admit their wrongs? I think it's a bit selfish to withhold the truth from others like that and never saying anything about it.
You're setting yourself up for emotional torment and this guy not only cheated but now he's emotionally cheating on his girlfriend with you again. Tell the truth, find a new friend and find another love interest. Wipe your hands clean from this because this is just not healthy.
ReplyI didn't tell her because 1. I don't know her. 2. I was too ashamed of the fact that I actually hooked up with him knowing that he would just leave the next morning. 3. I didn't want to interfere with him, at all, he didn't want to give the hookup any meaning so i just wanted him out of my life, completely, and I didn't care about what happened to him or his relationship.
I guess I thought that he was too good of a person and eventually he'd come clean to her, idk if he did but it was only a couple weeks ago that i found out that they were still together.
it's hard to move on, yeah i'm finding new friends and dating new people all the time, it's just that I miss him as a friend, kinda sick of the whole enemies relationship
ReplyIt is all games. Wash your hands of toxic relationships I have! It soooo freeing.
ReplyHe is doing this to get to YOU! If he loved his girl so much why would he need to keep rubbing YOUR face in it? Or why did he cheat on her with you? Do not be friends with someone like that! If I was his girl and found this out I would dump him in a heart beat! I never stalk anyone's social media because when it is over it should be over! It sounds like he cares more about what you think than his girlfriend LOL!!! So honey do not feel jealous of that! Be glad you did not get stuck with him!!!!!!!
ReplySo he's kinda being passive aggressive about his relationship with her, because he only started posting stuff of her after he started following me.
But if he cares more about what I think than his girlfriend why did he turn me down when i tried to get back together two months ago (when we hooked up)
to me it feels like he's just very passive aggressive about his relationship and i can't call him out on it because that would just be stupid
ReplyI would not know. I ended a very toxic relationship recently myself and I am much happier. I would not just hook up as that is not a good thing for anyone.
The best way to handle a wishy-washy guy is to not invest too much time and energy into a guy like this.
Don’t fall into the trap of believing you can change him because it’s not going to happen. He thrives on variety, drama, and newness and always will.
Needless to say, those AREN’T qualities of a true and lasting relationship.
Love it!
ReplyMy advice is to cut him off entirely. He is; trash. He can and will treat you the way he treats her. His words and affection to her hold no weight bc he himself is empty
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