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We just recently received our UK visa and our flight is already scheduled 2 weeks from now. I didn't really feel like I'm about to go through a life-changing moment here, like I'm not even moving out of the country or something until now. It felt like it didn't really sink in that I was about to move to a place with such a huge difference in culture, language, traditions, and practices. But now it all just came crashing in and I can't help but doubt myself, I don't think I'm ready for such a change.
For some info, I'm 18 and from the Philippines. And I've been too sheltered that I'm pretty much dependent on the people around me. I'm an 18 year old person with the mental age of a 13 year old. I don't think I'll survive by myself out there. I'm socially awkward that I can't even start conversations with people around me and my mind just goes blank whenever someone do starts one, I don't even like being around crowds too much! And then there's the fact that I'll be going to uni this year. I still have to take IELTS and I don't know if I'll pass. I don't even know what course I'll take or if I could adjust easily to the life over there. There's so much to worry about.
I want to prepare myself before moving but I don't know where I'll start or what I have to do. Hell, I don't even know what to expect when I get there. I know I have my mom and my sister with me but that doesn't really guarantee how much I could adjust and live successfully there. Maybe my mom will send me back after a month or so, I don't even know.
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I think sometimes we can't really prepare for things hat we know are coming. It is a big change but maybe you need to see it and live it a little before it starts to feel real. Don't stress out about it. If it helps why don't you focus on what you need to finish before you get there and figure out live in UK after you reach it. All the best and safe travels.
ReplyIt's going to be hard at first but you'll slowly get used to it. You'll start to understand the culture better and that can be a really fun thing. You'll also be able to bring the best parts of your culture with you : )
You'll always be able to speak with friends and family back home as well, and I'm sure if you wanted to you could find other people who have moved here from the Philippines who you can talk to about the difficulties of moving to a new country.
In short, there's not a whole lot you can prepare. Be open minded, be ready to step outside of your comfort zone and remember that each time you do this you're growing as a person.
Good luck!
ReplyThank you! Reading this is very comforting. I guess this is also an opportunity for me to learn how to do things on my own too. I'll keep this in mind every day :)
ReplyHey
If You Think That you wanna be prepared then let me tell you
YOU WILL NEVER BE PREPARED
Sometimes It's just best to say,"Fu*k It!" and let things happen and try to do as less as you can
I Have a performance tomorrow in front of around 60 people(All over the age of 26, some even above 62)
And They All look Forward to my performance(A Dance) Because I'm 16
And here I am Typing This!
Have you tried reading a book called, "The Secret"?(its a really good book,it has a movie if you don't like reading)
If Not Then
1.Take A Notepad and write down 25 things that you like(don't think too much,just write)
it can be a thing, a person or an activity(i don't need to give examples,you are 18)
do the first thing that came to your mind and the first thing on the list(don't think too much and just write whatever was the first thing that came to your mind)
in my list some things are
Listening to music
reading
using my pc(games,youtube,etc)
giving advice
Right Now, I am On my PC,headphones blasting music in my ears(i'm listening to a song called LOVE SCENARIO by iKON, I recommend it),reading these posts and giving advice
these things i like bring me JOY
so I am happy right now
Yeah, now that i think about it,i am worried about my performance tomorrow but i read my list and just throw that thought away
when i read the second paragraph, i felt like it was me writing it(not the current me,the me from a year ago)
but i did this thing i just told you and i even taped it on my wall(my crush is on that list too)
i am too nervous around women
no around HUMANS
i watch anime (They are really good to cheer you up,try some)
so just stop worrying
my mom is yelling at me so bye for now
do reply if this was helpful
reading the "thanks!'' comments make me happy too
ReplyThank you! Maybe this is the right situation to say "F*ck it!" lmao. I'll try that little activity you recommended too, it seems like it would help a lot. I'd better stop overthinking stuff too.
I haven't read The Secret yet. Is it good? I've been looking for a book to read in a while. And you've said that you watch anime? Any recommendations? It's been a while since I've watched anime, just read a few manga here and there, mostly light and funny ones.
Oh, and you have a good taste in music. Love Scenario's amazing, my sister and I love that song so much. Lol.
Sorry for this all-over-the-place response. I'm a bit out of it right now.
Btw, good luck on that performance. You'll do great!
ReplyThanks
Really(I was down in the dumps)
so Starting first
Yep,The Book 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne is the most life influencing book i have read(it was as easy to understand one)
After that read one called 'Science of getting rich' (better but may be difficult to accept and comprehend)
ANIME!
Don't get me started on anime
just follow this list in order
1.One punch man
2.Shokugeki no soma(Hilarious and Amazing, more like Appetizing)
3.Nisekoi (I can't help liking romances, I grin uncontrollably when they start blushing)
4.Isekai maou no shokan shoujo no dorie majitsu(I think I spelled it wrong,it means 'how not to summon a demon king')
5.Masamune-kun's Revenge(waiting for season 2)
6.(I don't know) Sword Art Online (I Love reading manga more than watching anime)
OK
I'll leave it at that
MUSIC
I am laughing now because as I was reading Your comment, I was Listening to love Scenario as well
and now you are smiling to yourself like an idiot(And anyone watching you will be concerned(or maybe happy that you are happy,who knows?))
Sorry(I go off a LOT of Tangents)
Glad You liked it
And the Performance I Mentioned? I Danced On Love Scenario!
And I am ready to listen to any music(Regardless of where the hell it is from, I just see if I start grinning and making weird noises do show my joy)
I told You ,[{(I'M WEIRD)}]
now there is an anime Opening from an anime I am currently watching
Ao-chan can't study
op is called WONDERFUL WONDER
And it's True to it's name!
IT'S THE BEST
AND NOW I AM MAKING WEIRD NOISES AGAIN AS I TYPE THIS JUST BECAUSE THAT OPENING STARTED PLAYING IN MY HEAD AND I PLAYED IT ON MY PC
*INSERT WEIRD ALIEN TAKING A SHIT BUT CAN"T NOISES*
OK STOP
And that response is well done for a hurried response
if you would wanna join then I have a chatroom on a website called E-chat
Its Named
Zero Two 26
*embarrassed*
I may pop up there sometimes
It was made when someone else I advised wanted to chat(on this website)
would love if I made another friend(I suck at Talking Face to face, I freeze)
So talking online is My domain
but my schoolmates know how I am In person so If I Talk like I am Talking right now(On Instagram) they say
Hey!Shut Up! You are just "insert name here"
I hate it but those book and the activity I told You help me a lot
these things I haven't even told my family
so i need an online chat-mate(Doesn't have to be you) so I can Blow off some steam,Once in A While(I'm not always like this)
Sorry this got sad
but
Thanks
Thanks to YOU
ReplyThe only way to finish is to start. Confidence is what you really need this time. Goodluck on your new journey!
Michael - Philippines
ReplyKnow that even when life gets tough, the "wrong " decisions can bring you to the right places! Just tough it out even when the going gets tough okay? stop telling yourself what if i cant, im not ready, i dont even know. Honey, life isn't a well planned out journey okay? Someone has to do something without knowing what to expect for the rest of the world to know that it's okay to do or not. BE that person!
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