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Why would I ever feel great hearing your significant other tell you he finds one of his female colleagues “fuckable”. Mind you, he works with this woman. Apart from having conversations about work related matters, he has engaged in having lunch with her nearly every day and speak to her about personal matters. He told her about me and our relationship. Spoke to her about how I was supposedly "jealous" when I'm not and mentioned about my mental health.
He doesn't know this women very well and I never met her either.
He's open up to her very quickly and she only started to work there a couple of months maybe longer, I'm not certain. It's bothering me now how he's been behaving and getting on my nerves telling me nearly every so often about how other women are attractive.Things have been rocky between us and I'm wondering if he has cheated on me. We've been together for 3 years and in a long distance relationship. I'm starting to have doubts about where his intentions are with me and if I'm just being used now.
He tells me that he loves me so much and wants to build a life with me. He had been often supportive towards me and we see each other reasonably enough to keep our relationship going. However, every so often he tends to play with my emotions and his frustrations with me at times can cause an argument.
Whenever we argue he can be a big time asshole and degrading towards me.I have mental illnesses and one of my issues is that I have trust issues. He is very much aware of how much I struggle with my mental health and living situation. I do appreciate his honesty towards me but when he tells me about someone he is around with presumably “fuckable”, it puts me in an uncomfortable position.
I'm trying to manage myself and my life. Also doing my best to remain trustful towards him and give him the benefit of the doubt but the remarks he has made isn't helping me.
I never rubbed it in his face by telling him how I found other men attractive and "fuckable". I'm a faithful girlfriend and I have respect for him to not engage in something like this. I have eyes only for him.
I'm finding this quite unfair because I do care and love him apart from my issues. I wouldn't abandon him. I have always been there for him and supportive of his goals. I give to his needs when I can and when I'm available. Hardly ever nagged and complained about him unless he was out of line. Our characters get along very well and when it comes to sex, there is never an issue. When we do argue we make amends and talk about it. I feel that this relationship has been getting alot more rough because of these arguments about my behavior with from my mental health, situations in my life, trust issues and how he's behaving around other women.
I don't want to end up making another mistake and getting my heartbroken all over again. My last long term relationship of 7 years was abusive and I never want to go through that again. We're both adults and I find this to be very immature in what he keeps telling me.I have felt at times really misunderstood by him even if he means well to be there for me.
I have enough stress and alot to deal with within myself, my life and surroundings. I really hope he will smarten up and won't add on to my issues either. I'm already in a place, having a tough time to get my self and life together. I am at my limits now. I've been trying to balance everything going on in my own life including our relationship.i truly hope he won't end up betray and make it worst for me...
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Oh gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through this and I know it's so painful (because of past relationships). It IS really immature of him and I was going to say he sounds like a jerk or a narcissist, but then you said how good the rest of your relationship is, so I don't even know what to say. I was married for 9 years, and I'm pretty sure he cheated on me, looking back. I was happily naïve at the time, until I started finding evidence but still denied it. I wish the best for you and hope everything turns out well. I don't like that he plays with your emotions. That's what a narcissist would do. Much Love to you.
ReplySis please run for your life! I am sorry but this is so toxic for you. and how do u have sex since u are distance-apart? Maybe he wants u fulltime with him so he can have more sex.. anyway he's toxic and so is the realtionship.
ReplyToxic for sure and I would not want a relationship like that at all. If I knew my person was doing that I would end it and not look back.
ReplyHe won't change. My ex was like that and used to call me "paranoid" when he accepted rides home from a girl he would flirt with (even in front of me), and he called her "fuckable" too.
Then guess what? He dumped me and said he wasn't ready to "settle" and that I wasn't what he wanted and that he basically wanted to sleep around more.
So yeah, leave this guy. He is playing with your feelings on purpose and he doesn't truly love you if he would cause you reason for doubt.
ReplyRed flags everywhere. No guy in their right mind should ever say stuff like that in front of their SO. I'd get upset if my husband even said his coworker was pretty (sorry not sorry). I wouldn't try to stay in this relationship. He doesn't seem to value what you two have. You can find someone better.
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