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I had realized at a young age that not everyone who wants to know what goes on with your life genuinely cares. There's people who only want to know about your life to use and gossip about you. Some will even use information against you in negative way and belittle you.
Others would try to take advantage of your vulnerability and times of weakness to their selfish use.
You cannot fully trust that people genuinely care about your well-being and always have good intentions.
This isn't to say that everyone is like this, but the fact we have to be careful with who we let into our lives. I would really like to believe that they're still few people who do genuinely care about you and wants you to be happy.
I always found that it's best to keep real deep personal matters to yourself to avoid drama and unwanted people away from your affairs. Especially, if you didn't ask anyone to get involved in the very first place and also the fact people tend to make a situation worst, than initially should of been. There are things that you share with those you trust which you wouldn't want people to know about and get involved in. Just because I share something doesn't give anyone the permission to do something on my behalf. Having anyone expose what impacted you, hurt you alot, shows the lack of boundaries and respect people have for your privacy.
I regretted opening up to others thinking people actually genuinely cared, as I cared for them and I did. In some cases, they really didn't care as much as I thought and only wanted to know out of nosiness. There were times where I was being honest about my hurtful experiences and then be called out as a liar, or attention seeker when it took me a long time to finally open up to others in the first place. It's absolute shit that you're genuinely being honest about real personal matters or experiences which hurt and then get disregarded.
You never really know what people's intentions are when you share some personal information about your life. It could be used to benefit you or take away from you.
This is part of why I have a hard time opening up to others about anything and trusting people.
Not everyone is a friend but an enemy. Let me tell you, I even would deliberately distance my self from others because of that and other matters too. You would think you're safe with sharing some concerning matters about your life with others you know well, expecting them to actually care when they ask about how you are and seem to act like they do. It's not always the case and
in reality they use that to their advantage to unintentionally and intentionally cause you more harm.
I will always remain cautious about whom I let into my life and is deserving to take a seat at my table.
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Me too!
ReplyAmen
ReplyI mean, it's common sense not to give away your life story to every person you talk to.. Also common sense that not everyone is going to like you or accept you.
ReplyNo, kidding, obviously 🙄.
I haven't given my whole life story, certainly not about everything or every single detail Again, I wouldn't just tell everyone or anyone.
People don't know much at all but like to claim and think they do when it comes to another person's life. If people are deliberately trying to dig into my life without my consent, that's not my fault either and I didn't ask for it. It's also common sense to not violate people's privacies which could lead to actual jail time, but not everyone gets it do they if they still do it?
If they did, they would mind their own business, wouldn't bother the person, move along with their own lives and also keep their comments to themselves, right?
If I don't like someone, you honestly think I'm going to bother with them and even mention them, hell no. At least, I would have the decency to tell that person in their face, move on with my life and not pretend or be a fake about it ;)
I'm not a hateful person but I wouldn't appreciate the sh*tty things people do to me on purpose to hurt me. Under certain circumstances where people are being unfairly cruel and disrespectful towards me for no reason, I have the right to stand up for myself when boundaries are being crossed. It's called not being a push over and letting others trample all over me. If I see someone being disrespected and unfairly mistreated by others, I would stand up for them too without any hesitation. Try to at least help someone when I see that their being unfairly and viciously mistreated, because that's common sense to be humane towards others, don't you think?
It's also common sense to have the maturity to be respectful towards each human being, despite differences and disagreements. Nobody in this world and in this life is there to please you and made to fit inside or into your little imaginary box. That's not sensible. I know this to be common sense, do you?
I really don't care if people don't like me and accept me, it still doesn't justify anyone to hurt me deliberately and mess with my life.
Do you understand that?
I don't need people in my life who don't like me and accept me in the first place. I'm perfectly okay with that, but it doesn't mean I should be disrespected as a human being. I also shouldn't have to tolerate any form of abuse from anyone just because they don't freakin like me. So, please, they can stay the hell away from me, my life and leave alone. They can have the common sense to keep my name out of their mouths if they had a problem with me too. I never asked for anyone's opinion on whether they liked me and accepted me.
I will kindly say that your condescending comment about common sense wasn't needed, but thanks for trying.
_- Writer J
ReplyUhh, I already know this. And your condescending comment wasn't necessary at all.
ReplyI like to also add that I haven't given my whole life story out, certainly not about everything or every single detail of my life BY THE WAY. Again, I wouldn't just tell everyone AND JUST anyone anyways.
People don't know much at all but like to claim and think they do, when it comes to another person's life. If people are deliberately trying to dig into my life without my consent that's not my fault either. I didn't ask for it. It's also common sense TO NOT VIOLATE PEOPLE'S PRIVACY, which could lead to actual jail time, but not everyone has the common sense to get it.
If they did, they would mind their own business, wouldn't bother the person, move along with their own lives and also keep their unwanted comments to themselves, right?
If I don't like someone, you honestly think I'm going to bother with them at all and even mention them, NO.
At least I would have the decency to tell that person in their face, move on with my life and not pretend and be a fake about it ;)
I'm not a hateful person but I wouldn't appreciate the horrible things people do to me on purpose, in order to cause harm towards me. Under certain circumstances where people are being unfairly cruel and disrespectful towards me for no reason. I have the right to stand up for myself when my boundaries are being crossed. It's called not being a push over and letting others trample all over me. Unlike most people, I don't hide behind something and start attacking them.
If I see someone being disrespected and unfairly mistreated by others, I would stand up for them too without any hesitation. Try to at least help someone out when I see that their being harassed, bullied, unfairly and viciously mistreated. That's common sense to be humane towards others, don't you think?
It's also common sense to have the maturity to be respectful towards each human being, despite having differences and disagreements. Nobody in this world and in this life is there to please you and made to fit inside or into your little box. That's not sensible. I know this to be common sense, do you?
I really don't care if people don't like me and accept me. It will never justify them to hurt me deliberately and mess with my life. I don't need people in my life who don't like me and accept me. I'm perfectly okay with that, but it doesn't mean I should be disrespected and dehumanized as a human being. I also shouldn't have to tolerate any form of abuse from anyone, just because they don't like me and approve of me. So, please, they can stay away from me, my life and leave alone completely. They can have the common sense to keep my name out of their mouths if they had a problem with me too. There's no way I ever asked for anyone's opinion on whether they liked me and accepted me anyways to begin with.
I'm well informed about common sense but thanks for trying.
_- Writer J
ReplyI know. I was just ignoring certain people this recently. It feels good but I feel a little guilt, for somehow they are my friends, and I am considering the good times we had. But I want to keep reminding myself, what about the times that proved they are not being real to me, the times that proved they are faking their kindness, times that proved there were motives behind their acts, the pretentious act they do so you would think to return favors, their lies, the times they tried to manipulate, times I were took advantage of, the times they were secretly envious of you but acted they were happy for you.
I want to stop being so considerate for those kind of people already.
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