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3 months ago · · My Truth, · Explicit
I had realized at a young age that not everyone who wants to know what goes on with your life genuinely cares. There's people who only want to know about your life to use and gossip about you. Some will even use information against you in negative way and belittle you.
Others would try to take advantage of your vulnerability and times of weakness to their selfish use.
You cannot fully trust that people genuinely care about your well-being and always have good intentions.
This isn't to say that everyone is like this, but the fact we have to be careful with who we let into our lives. I would really like to believe that they're still few people who do genuinely care about you and wants you to be happy.
I always found that it's best to keep real deep personal matters to yourself to avoid drama and unwanted people away from your affairs. Especially, if you didn't ask anyone to get involved in the very first place and also the fact people tend to make a situation worst, than initially should of been. There are things that you share with those you trust which you wouldn't want people to know about and get involved in. Just because I share something doesn't give anyone the permission to do something on my behalf. Having anyone expose what impacted you, hurt you alot, shows the lack of boundaries and respect people have for your privacy.
I regretted opening up to others thinking people actually genuinely cared, as I cared for them and I did. In some cases, they really didn't care as much as I thought and only wanted to know out of nosiness. There were times where I was being honest about my hurtful experiences and then be called out as a liar, or attention seeker when it took me a long time to finally open up to others in the first place. It's absolute shit that you're genuinely being honest about real personal matters or experiences which hurt and then get disregarded.
You never really know what people's intentions are when you share some personal information about your life. It could be used to benefit you or take away from you.
This is part of why I have a hard time opening up to others about anything and trusting people.
Not everyone is a friend but an enemy. Let me tell you, I even would deliberately distance my self from others because of that and other matters too. You would think you're safe with sharing some concerning matters about your life with others you know well, expecting them to actually care when they ask about how you are and seem to act like they do. It's not always the case and
in reality they use that to their advantage to unintentionally and intentionally cause you more harm.
I will always remain cautious about whom I let into my life and is deserving to take a seat at my table.