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3 years ago · 2 · long distance relationsh..., +2


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Lol so after a few days of not talking because my bf ghosted me (nothing to my knowledge on why he did it)but could post on instagram. So finally he texted me today and was like he was going through something but he got past it . He said his communication is horrible and said he should’ve communicated better. I thought okay cool problem solved we are back . But he has texted me back since 11:30 AM and here it is 10:14pm no text back but he’s posting on his Instagram. My messages are getting delivered too. He won’t tell me what’s the problem I keep texting him but no response. I’m highly upset that I have to think about breaking up . He can’t just ghost me whenever he wants !!!

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  • Novni Guest · 3 years ago

    You're right. He can't.

    And I think you know clearly by now, that you are not his priority.

    You sound like someone who is loyal & supportive. And you deserve the same.

    Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't give you the transparency and respect that you deserve.

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  • Novni Guest · 3 years ago

    I wish I knew both sides and a bit more, but I think this is crux of the issue. You do deserve better. However, texting him frequently might be pushing him further away. Generally, when someone wants to talk, they will when they are ready. My advice is to wait, keep busy, spend time with other people, just do something other than pester him. Long distance relationships are tricky when it comes to spending adequate time, especially when time zones are drastically different. Some people will not message back regularly or when you want them to. Sometimes, they will post on social media because it takes less brain power to do so. It's relaxing, whatever. If you care about him, you will give him space and time to work through what it is that is bothering him. If you don't, he may feel smothered. Would you like him to constantly text you when you want to be left alone? Think on that. It's your decision. If you want to end things with him and be with someone more available, that is your right. But all I'm saying is, don't jump to conclusions. There's always a reason.

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