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irrational but i cant help it

3 years ago · 7 · Stress, +34


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theres this guy who i know and really like. we're not really friends, we've only exchanged like 4 words. he has a gf, and obvi i dont wanna be a homewrecker. i never get nervous around guys. never. not once. but around him, my hands shake, my heart pounds, and i blush (which i never do). im so nervous around him. i hate his gf. theres a girl who always stares at him and i hate her for it. i know its irrational, but i cant help it. i hate those girls so much that i can physically feel it. am i psycho? why does he affect me like this? whyyyyy??

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  • _Blacksheep_ · 3 years ago

    Do you really like him or do you love him?

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    • threat-of-joy · 3 years ago

      idek i’ve never been in love so i have no idea but i’ve also never had a crush like this

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  • Clair_Bear143 · 3 years ago

    I FEEL LIKE THAT TOO. This guy named ian and we like never talk but im crazy abt him and i hated his ex but now that they broke up she's pretty nice actually. lol. im twelve tho so u know, i dont know anything.

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  • Novni Guest · 3 years ago

    It’s not morally okay to step into someone else’s relationship regardless of you think the relationship isn’t right or not. The most I can tell you is to worry about you and do you. If one day they happen to split up and he’s single then you can take your chance. But imagine being in a relationship with someone you really love and there was another girl that felt the way you do and hated you and loved your bf. You would want her to back off and mind her business and not get involved in your relationship. I think you should respect there’s and do as you would want for yourself. ❤️ Love yourself and do for you and let things fall into place :) if you care about someone and want them to be happy, let them be. These things happen in life and things don’t always go your way. But it builds mental willpower within us to realize these things. The heart can be very irrational at times when in an emotional state. Listen to your head and your gut too x

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    • threat-of-joy · 3 years ago

      i know it’s horrible for me to even wish for them to break up. that’s the reason i haven’t talked to him, because i know my feelings are going to escalate and i don’t want to cause any trouble between him and his girl. she is very lucky, but i don’t want to be the reason she’s left heartbroken

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      • Novni Guest · 3 years ago

        Honestly, you’re going about this in the right way. I know it may hurt but don’t let it control you emotionally or stop you from focusing on yourself or even opening yourself up emotionally to see other people. I know it suck but you know what they say , life works in mysterious ways. Things may work themselves out in the future , maybe not. But don’t let this overwhelm you too much. Or even stop you from maybe seeing someone else who sees things in you that could possible progress into something good❤️ Stay open minded and open hearted. I wish you all the best :)

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  • Myself_on_Mars · 3 years ago

    I'm sure everyone feels jealously that way, and it's most likely for your reaction to be completely normal. You could maybe try talking to him more, and get to be friends. If he already has a girlfriend, stray away from any flirting when you talk. It could be hard, but being friends would be the way to go to get to know him better and be around him more often.

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