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Hello. So umm, do you know the feeling when you have something that is great and perfect ... but you are not happy and you want something that is not so perfect? Yup. I know that feeling very well. My boyfriend, he is extremely smart, loving, completely loyal and very patient, my age and he as well looks very very handsome. Why am I not happy? Why do I want something else? It gets even worse. I am very attracted to older men. Mentally and sexually. And I am not talking about 2, 3 years older but like 20, 30 years older. I found a man on an online dating site (I am using it just to look at other profiles) and I “fell in love” with his pictures and his description about himself even more. I want to text him something but I know it’s not right. I AM AWARE that by breaking up with my boyfriend, I would lose a diamond in search of stones. I know that breaking with him and texting 30 years older man would be wrong idea, I am not stupid, I know it but it still want to do it. Why? Why am I not happy with a perfection?
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because i think in ur heart you know he's not perfect. nobody is perfect
Replyjust pick one. if u later regret that choice then its on you, but i recommend you don't cheat. (in my opinion i say ur current guy)
ReplyWell, it seems inevitable you'll go for an older guy it's just a matter of when
I say don't cheat on him, just break up with him and call things off, (you owe him that at least) and go for your older guy
Maybe it'll work out maybe not but if you see your current boyfriend as he is right now and you're still not satisfied then there's nothing about him that will
ReplyTell him your feelings, (probably don't tell him about the older man) maybe something is missing and y'all can find out what it is. Relationships are supposed to partnerships, two people should be about to talk about anything especially if it affects the other.
ReplyDaddy issues? Honestly, the bottom line is, if you search you will find. You are on dating sites and all. Put your feet on your partner shoes, would you like him to find you perfect in all sense and yet seek something else outside your relationship? You will hurt him and you will not be happy in the long run. I am sure you don't want a BF that will need you to wipe their butts 20-30 years from here..
ReplyI think you need to revaluate your understanding and perception of the word “happy”. You say you are not happy, yet you have this wonderful person and there is nothing wrong with them. Perhaps your issue is not linked to a happiness issue but rather inconformity?
Don’t throw to waste the valuable things you have in life for those you “think” you want. You see, that older person fantasy you have is impersonated by a perfect person it only exist in your mind. We both can agree you can’t foresee if the stranger you meet will be a good hearted person. In the other hand, you’ve been with this person for years now and you know what they are about. And for your disappointment, they are very good. So, looking for more than you have, will get him very, very hurt, and trust me, you will look back if you do something like that. I don’t think you’d like to see this person moving on with their lives without you.
Some need to lose some what they have to value it. Don’t be part of that group, learning can be difficult but we don’t have to experience actual hardships for it.
Smart people learn from their mistakes, l
Wise people learn from other’s mistakes.
ReplyIt seems like more of a reflection of you than the men you are choosing. It's almost as if you don't believe you deserve a man whom is perfect. You're in search of something messy, complicated and less than because you believe that is what you deserve on a subconscious level. It would be most ideal if you gave a hiatus to all men and focused on yourself and loving yourself.
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