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I'm introvert. 18 years old girl. I've been even more shy before, i am better now, but i have a problem with men. I just don't know how to talk to men. With women is so easy, it usually just flows, now when it comes to guys, it like I freeze. I never had a boyfriend, and I have a crush on a guy that is my class, but I don't know how to talk to him. I dont think that i ever said more than 3 words with him. He is cute and smart but he is outgoing, he is the only boy in our class, so he is around girls all the time, and somehow i freeze everytime i get close to him. I feel stupid.
And it is not just with crushes. I freeze with every men i talk, its like a fobia. I just don't know how to talk to them. I always end up imagining that he is flirting and i freeze. Idk why, its jut weird. I cant keep a normal conversation with a guy like the way I would do with a girl. Its annoying.
Idk what is wrong with me. With my crush i know that is because i have feelings for him, but come on, i freeze with every single man I talk to, its like i dont feel comfortable or something.
Just wish i knew how to talk like a norml person. Make friends and stuff
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Im an introvert as well. I dont think anything's wrong with you. Maybe you fear rejection or how you might be viewed if you think you mess up on something. The freezing could be like a protection mechanism. Just try to be yourself. Ask questions or start with simple hellos and go from there. I know being an introvert talking to people can be draining and frustrating and anxiety causing.
ReplyI had the same issue in the Past...what I did was I tried to talk to them but not with the thought in mind that they were guys, more thinking that I'm just talking to another girl. It may sound weird and it's not that easy at first even starting a conversation with a guy, but that helped me a lot, and after some time I got less nervous and anxious. I also always thought that no guy is interested in me so we're both even because I don't want something to do with them neither. I guess the last one isn't a help with your crush tho..
ReplyAlso, the best you can do is practicing, really...once you get over your fear and the more you talk to guys the easier it gets.
ReplyPretend guys you talk to are girls.
ReplyI get this with women and girls, particularly if they are playful AND or I am attracted to them. That makes it all MATTER SO MUCH> I am 48.
The problem is for me , is that I have this massive feeling of inferiority, which means that I , start off from a real position of neediness , having to impress, having to be perfect, being someone perfect (not myself) etc.
Totally bizarre.
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