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2 years ago · · Venting, · Explicit
"Why prolong the agony" he says while getting out of the hot tub after we sat under he stars the eve after a New Moon; the first night the frogs could be heard this year.
Yesterday I wrote in my phone, "How come when I share my needs, you respond with anger instead of compassion?"
He is hurt that I told him we were trying to make the same point. We agree. We have the same opinion.
How dare I tell him we see things the same way. That what I was initially saying is in congruence with the point he interrupted me to make.
I feel at a loss.
Did I challenge his manhood? He is too kind-spirited for that. He is a feminist who charms the masses.
His confidence is sexy. His lack of humility, grotesque.
"How come when I share my needs, you respond with anger instead of compassion?"
I think about how to respond to him with compassion. I, too, didn't show fully that I listened to him. Instead I focused on myself being heard.
So here I am. Confused. Someone who is so awful it is agonizing to sit with under the perfect night sky.
[That is a Personalization cognitive distortion. For all I know he heat could have been too high in the water and he was tired.]
I saw theee shooting stats.