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I have been called fat everyday at school and I have been bullied. It got to the point to where i started to self harm and i told myself that noone would ever love me. I met my sister (Best Friend) last semester at school and she tells me that im beautiful and i need to see that im amazing and that im no where near fat. I started to listen to her and i thought i loved my self. Well recently ive been wondering why i cant find a boyfriend and its because i dont truly love myself. Ive watched Ru Pauls drag race for years now and ive never truly listened when he says " If you dont love yourself then how the hell are you supposed love someone else " he is so right! But i dont understand why i dont love myself. People tell you to love yourself because you only get one of you, But they dont teach you how to love yourself. I dont think the Bigger people out here that dont love ourselfs will never know how! A skinny person doesnt know how i feel, when i run i get out of breath FAST. I never changed in the locker rooms i always went into the bathroom because i was terrified of what i look like. I had to start shopping in the mens section before i was a teenager. When i go out with friends i try to order as little as possible because i dont want to seem fat. I dont go to buffets with friends. When i go to the pool or the beach i swim with a shirt on. If anyone out here thinks they can give me tips on how to love myself pls try. I just think its stupid how counselors say " Go to OEA " I DONT HAVE A EATING DISORDER.
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To truly love yourself you just need to be ok with yourself no matter what size you are. Lose weight of you want but you are lovable just as you are.
Replyyou are so sweet thank you
Reply"the hardest person to love is yourself" - whoever quote this is spitting facts. You should love yourself and don't care about society says. Remember that If you want to be skinnier then you should do it for yourself not for the shallow people. The people who bullied you because of your weight are assholes.
ReplyMy best friend of forever is all skin and bones whereas I'm all curves and a chunky mf. She hates the way she looks and vice verse, we often joke about how we need to merge and become the medium weight and become Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum together. But I still look at her and think shes the most beautiful girl I know who deserves the world, as does she when she looks at me.
As for gaining confidence start small, you cant expect to wake up one day and feel happy with who you are. Start small, look in the mirror, and I mean really look, find one thing that you love about yourself. This can be your eyes, your nose, to something bigger, you might like your feet or the shape of your ears, you could even have a favourite front tooth! For me its my eyes, and when I'm feeling down and body shaming myself, ill make eye contact in the mirror and stare at my eyes, it reminds me that beauty isn't my rolls but the spark in my eyes when my favourite song comes on.
Next step, this is harder and going to take longer but please bare with me, when you first wake up in the morning looking all tussled and bed ridden, look in the mirror and chant I AM BEAUTIFUL 5 times. Say this powerfully, you can build up to it over the 5 times until your practically shouting. Unconsciously, this will start your day in slightly better spirits.
As for not being able to love someone when you cant love yourself is so damaging. You have all this built up love where your stopping yourself from letting someone in that when you finally give it away this lucky sole is going to glow gold and flicker like fire in the wind. You have so much to give believe it as I believe in you that you CAN do this!
ReplySelf love is a hard thing to do. It is exhausting and painful and confusing. There is no handbook on how to love yourself. My only advice is to be gentle with yourself. Be kind. Know that you are lovable and incredible. Your weight does not disregard that. You are lovable. I hope your journey for self-love is an upwards road. Wishing you well x
ReplyIt's not easy to love yourself. I can't stop you from hurting yourself again. But maybe the reason your not getting a boy to talk to you id because your not confident in yourself. Just now even if your not pretty on the outside your beautiful on the inside, and that's all that matters. Who cares what people think. Show them their wrong.
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