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I wish it was possible to get mental help under 18 without parental permission
3 years ago · 5 · Stress, +5
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It's so hard to get mental help under the age of 18. Yes, you CAN, but it MUST be with parental permission, and honestly, I really hate this so much. I really need the help as I was diagnosed with GAD at 10 and my dad literally threw away the anxiety medication I was given as he didn't believe in mental health, and my mom agrees with my dad on this. I have a narcissistic father that treats me horribly and causes me to become so stressed that at this point I've been missing my periods. I've never missed a period before this ever even when it first started, and it was always regular and lasted the same amount of days. Anyway, that's just a very slight background of how bad it has become. My mom is nicer to me but just tells me that I need to grow up and deal with it and stop crying and stop stressing over it because I need to be strong mentally. Whenever I complain to her about how he's treating me she says "get over it" and ends the conversation there. I tried to get myself on anxiety accommodations at school but no, they HAVE to ask my parents if that's okay with them. Of course my dad said no and denied I got diagnosed with anxiety and refused to show them the evidence, and unfortunately I can't access them. They don't believe me now, and when I try to go in with a panic attack they tell me there is nothing they can do to help and just told me to take deep breaths and go back to class. I cry at school with the amount of stress I'm under they basically say the same thing. At some point, they did tell me I should go to therapy, but like... HOW? My parents don't believe in mental health at all. I just wish there were websites where you could actually get advice and some sort of basic help without having to pay money to get it. I just need enough helping tools to get through 10 more months before I can move out, and at this point I don't know if I can make it 10 more months with all of this horrible mistreatment. The thing is, there's no way I can get out of this situation. In the past with my brothers, my dad had to get evaluated for how he treated them because someone called for help, and unfortunately he passed as "okay, you're almost crossing the line to the point we need to get them out of here, but since you aren't there it's fine, we just recommend you get help". I wish there was no 'crossing the line' aspect and just if you aren't raising your kids right you should force them to seek therapy of some sort or parenting class. I understand it's not how it's supposed to work, but it's just not right. There are hotlines as well, but from what I know about them, those are for supporting like "it's okay you'll be okay,". No, I won't. I'm tired of hearing that. All of these websites require people to tell you these really sweet "it's okay" messages, and sure, that's nice and all, and is helpful for those who are suffering in other ways, but I personally cannot hear it's okay anymore. All I hear from my mom is "it's okay get over it you only have 10 more months". I had to deal with him for almost 18 years at this point and I'm running out of sanity. I have a relationship and friends and now I'm in pain about that as well because he's forcing me to break up with my boyfriend as "I'm not mature yet" and doesn't want me to have any kind of fun and relaxation as I need to do school work all day every day and that it isn't good to take breaks. My boyfriend and I have been fighting about it, and it's really making my health worse. I understand he wants me to spend time with him, but there's no way. I would love to spend time with him as well, and that makes it even more horrible for me.
My dad's ex-wife divorced him due to how horrible he was as a person and sought therapy. I do go to her house sometimes to get away from him (very rarely as he refuses to let me go a lot, like once a year kind of thing for only a few days, and I already visited her this year), and she tells me that she wishes she could help me out. She said if therapy and going to the doctors to get prescribed medicine didn't take a parent, she would've done it. I feel like at 16 or at least 17 there should be a law allowing someone to get some kind of help, whether it be online or not, without parental permission. I understand this will probably never happen, but what am I supposed to do in the meantime? For 10 more months, how am I supposed to get over all of this anxiety, crying, shaking, depression, trauma and mental breakdowns? (An example of trauma I have gone through is being screamed at to the top of his lungs, causing me to have flashbacks. It causes me to panic, shiver, I can't move or do anything, and I cry loudly.) What am I supposed to do? "It's okay" is really sweet and all, but it really isn't okay. It WILL be okay when I move out, but there's no way I can keep fighting unless I have some sort of help to get me there. How do I make it through without giving up? To keep going just because of someone else in my life isn't really going to help. I need to do it for me, and I need to make it through with the least amount of anxiety, stress, depression, and panicking as possible. It's weird that I hope after checking enough websites just one will have a "talk to a counselor" option that's free or allowing advice to be given option.
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If you are still in school there should be a counselor there for you to talk to. Or try the churches in your area as some have a counselor you can see for free. There are phone lines on this site.
ReplyHello!
I know for a fact that there are text hotlines out there, I have tried some and they reply in minutes, no bots or anything, I know for a fact that they do listen to you, I hope you get better!
If you ever need anyone, remember a person in this world cares for you, I promise there are more people out there who care.
Don't forget to drink water and to eat well!
ReplyI understand what your going through I cant say I relate with my dad and all that mostly hes a good person he has angier issues and he does yell at me for not reason ,most of,the time when I havent done anything wrong I havent be dignosed with anything but I have panic attacks and,we brought this to,my doctor she agreed that I was having them but didnt really do anything about it but like your parents did any medicine that they would have given me they would have thrown away I hope that every thing gets better for you but what really helps me with my anxiety is writing poems I write when I feel sad or when I'm overwhelmed and it helps a lot depending on the sitituion but I never talk to anyone about my problems I tell my mom ever once in a while but she doesn't show much interest in what I say she thinks I do it for attention but that's somthing that I learned to live with my anxiety has gotten so bad that my eye twitches and some times I can't breathe and the only person that ever made me feel better even if I didn't tell her what was wrong died December 26 2019 and I don't think I'll ever forget that day or the last day I saw her , but I swear it gets better every day like I've probably said a thousand times already writing helps me and I hope,it helps,you too sorry I ranted to you in the comment secession but on well hope everything gets better for you and I know it will so never ever think that I wont get better because I feel better ever single day and it might feel like it gets worse at some times but I promise you it gets better
ReplyIf you cannot identify an anonymous telephone based 'mental issues' counselling service then please consider just calling a suicide counselling service. I do not think that you are suicidal. I certainly hope that you are not. If whilst seeking counselling from them they challenge that you are not suicidal and hence abusing the resourse. Ask them do they really want you to wait till this sh1t makes you feel that way before calling back.
Tip: If your only option to call these is with a mobile you should be able to find a setting in your mobile phone to 'hide' your number when you make calls.
If you can access a public phone you should be able to find a counselling service allowing anonymity and offering a 'free' call number.
You are as valuable to the human race as any other member. Please refer to this when you are feeling particularly anxious.
Replyim going through the same thing they wont let me get help they say im teying to get attion but ive took took boudes after bouds of pills to end my life
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