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I have a toxic person in my life. I cut them out a while ago, but they still find ways to bother me. It's not just them, they have friends too. I have blocked all of their numbers, their social media accounts, etc. I wouldn't say it's bad enough to get the school or someone else invovled, but a few parents know including my own and some of my friends'.
I have tried confronting them. I didn't have much success, as they would just twist the situation to make it seem like I was in the wrong. They made it seem like I was stupid for standing up for myself because I was being too sensitive. At the same time, they criticized me for not standing up to them sooner and communicating my issues. They said I wasn't a real friend because real friends would've been open about their issues.
While I agree that I could've come to them sooner, it was pretty obvious to everyone that they were being horrible. I never thought that I needed to spell it out for them. And I don't think I was being too sensitive. What they did really did hurt me and I just assumed that they knew what they were doing because we were in a big fight at the time.
It's hard to deal with them because when they find ways to talk to me it's always a few people against me. They have inside jokes about me that they all reference in group chats and messages and stuff that I never fully understand, but I can guess at their meanings. They also think they know me and will try to attack me personally. I'm not going to get into details in case one of them ever finds this, but they don't know who I really am, which is a relief. They think I'm sensitive and pious but I'm neither.
Any advice? I have tried being "toxic" back. When I tried being toxic during a confrontation, they did back down a little, but as soon as they were back with their friends they all started talking bad behind my back, so that didn't get me anywhere. I know literally everyone on the internet says to avoid them and to cut them out. What if that doesn't work? Is there a way to make the cost of targeting me outweigh the benefit? Is there a way to deter them? Keep in mind that these people never EVER get bored with me. In fact, things are worse when they get bored, because then they entertain themselves by harassing me. Please give me advice, preferably advice other than "go to the school" or "don't engage with them". I know that getting the school involved would only make things worse, because if they can't reach out to me then they'll just spread rumors or get other people to hate me. Thanks for reading and let me know what I can do.
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Get their names and go to the news people. Contact a computer crime task force. You can get into trouble for harassment and bullying.
ReplyThey can go to jail.
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ReplyDon't let them bully you ever. Let them spread rumors.
ReplyThe people that know you and care about you know the truth so that is all that counts.
ReplyThey are trying to scare you into not telling the school. They are using fear to control you. Don't be afraid.
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