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I haven't self harmed since last Tuesday. This is a huge deal for me as it became something I felt I needed every day. I never understood before why people do it, why they'd hurt themselves. Then one night just under a year ago I got sick of things and wanted to end it, I figured if that's what other people do to stop themselves I'd try it too. But I didn't realise how reliant I'd become. Now I have scars that may never fully disappear. It's an addition now and I think I'm having withdrawal. I feel the need to do it again, my chest hurts. It feels like this deep painful pressure and I know the only way to stop it. But I really need to stop. I need to stop doing this to myself. How do I stop this feeling without it?
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How old are you? Even if you're a teenager, your pain isn't less important than if you're an adult. It might even be more important.
I know what you must be feeling, it's never easy dealing with the deep rooted pain. It feels almost bottomless, never ending even. The moment someone gets in the walls you build and finally gets you to hear how important you the voices drown them out telling the same thing you believed.
Substitution of pain with pain is still just pain. It doesnt stop the pain, it just makes it physical. Its like texting someone. You're still talking to them, but being there in person makes all the difference. Makes it feel substantial. But it doesnt fix the problem, just makes it easier to not think about it. You need to face the problem. Something doesnt feel right for you, something is lacking and I can make guesses as what that is but I dont know. I know you need to face the problem, break them into smaller pieces and deal with them. Way easier said then done i know. But you can't stop the hurt until you know why it hurts.
And another thing. Dont ever let anyone tell you your pain isn't valid. It's ok to hurt and it's ok to cry, these are all feelings we are born with. It's ok to be a human and to feel. You shouldn't ever have to feel bad about that.
ReplyYou could actually punch your bed mattress that relieves stress imo. I used to self harm as well I was able to stop on my own. Though I do still have thoughts of doing it occasionally. Probably the only way to truly stop is talk about what truly drives you to self harm to a trusted person. You need to think to yourself "I'm a beautiful amazing person I don't need to harm myself because I'm a valid human being". Pain can difficult to deal with. It's there. acknowledge it no shame in it. We all deal with some sort of thing and experience pain in some form or another. Doesn't make you any less of a person to cry write about it or whatever...anything to keep you from going back to it that's not bad. Take care hon xx
Replyjust know that it will eventually be alright and involve some comedy in your daily life
watch some stand-up comedy or cartoons that really helped me
ReplyYour need to stop means to STOP.
The reason why this specific need is still a need because it has not been dealt with properly.
Pain cannot be fixed and healed with another pain. Instead of being consumed by this experience and focused on pain itself, YOU CAN try and find out what it is teaching you.
Just because people are doing it, you should be doing it too. Their lives, truths, feelings, thoughts are not same as yours.
Ask yourself these questions for starters:
What is the message behind this self-harm?
Why am I hurting myself?
Who am I?
Who am I not?
Replyit is so fucking hard. I got addicted to pain because i stopped eating properly and it wasnt till later that i realized how i wasnt happy, i liked feeling that hunger and i wanted more. i started cutting and went on a spiral down till i told someone and my parents tried to help but failed and then i met my current bf and i havent cut in a while. but it's hard, find a support system, tell your self to stop. find a way to get it all out a different way. I believe and you deserved to live a good life.
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