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Hello! How are you? I shake you warmly by the hand. Virtually of course, you could be contagious. Is virtual the right term? Anyway, I'd like to take this time to ask you what's on your mind? I know few will respond, anecdotal evidence suggests that I'm correct in assuming. I just wanna chance to talk to y'all. Good or bad, lemme know. I'm here to listen and give input if you'd like.
Stay safe out there.
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I guess I'm okay, how about you?
Well. Here's an anecdote that could make you glad you weren't me today:
So there I was. Playing a game on my phone, minding my own business like a pro. I've had much practice, you see.
And my phone...has the nerve. To ring.π Now, I don't know about you. But I don't take too kindly to my phone functioning as it was intended when I'm trying to pvp. That is not the nice.
And I'll tell ya this: I don't usually answer it. When it makes that odd, outlandish, obsolete sound.
But! Today. Oh yes, today. I did. Not sure why, something just told me to, and I listened. Which was a good thing, because it was like some official thing I needed to deal with.
Nevermind I thought today was the 19th all day. But that's here nor there. Moving right along.
I had to go print something to sign and I needed to go upstairs to do that.π But up the stairs I went. I came, I saw. I fucking PRINTED.
Meanwhile, in my haste to satisfy the offishiousness of the event (which I did, by the way. Saw a notary. It was amazing)...I left my luscious darling unattended for approximately 8 minutes.
When I say luscious darling, I'm referring to my large mocha frozen coffee with whipped cream from dunkin donuts. The morning goddess of the cup herself. In the flesh. Eat your heart out and all that.
WHICH! I promptly returned to directly upon completion of said task.
Took a big ole sip.
Its...a frozen. Coffee...theres ice in it.
Of course, I know that.
I caught a chunk. Started to chew it up.
...this ice isnt melting...
*Immediately spits it out*
I chewed. On a fuck.inG. FLY.
LET THE CRINGE BEGIN!
But yeah, other than that. I guess today sucked my ass backwards 5 times with no hair net -officially-.-
And how was youuuuuur day?
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ReplyI'm fine lol, but I can see your day wasn't quite as risk free as mine and I wont like, had myself a laugh unfortunately at your expense. I'm sorry lol, I cannot imagine the trauma that came from said experience and I'd like to examine it.
So games were in the process of being played. And you said you did this like that of a pro, correct?
The phone rang? Yes,that is a function that brings me irritation. A quick Google search explains pop and everything I need to know
So today was something of an oddity, you answered the phone.
Fate smiled that day, it helped you adult, something we dont do by default so yes, it all worked out.
PRINTED!
oh no! Not our sweetest darling of a delicate brown!
She sounds beautiful.
Well I'd say you earned it
That must've been so refreshing
I can only imagine
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Ok
Oh no
Oh god no
They ask how you are
Well that's one way of describing it.
My day was just dandy and totally free of flies. I guess you said something that scared novni and upon reading I dont blame them lol
ReplyYou could be contagious yourself for all I know.
ReplyDamn, you got me. Wanna hug?
ReplyWe are all sad and depress here
ReplyAnd I'd very much like to talk to y'all. So what's up
ReplyWell I feel stress
ReplyUh huh. What does the stress come from
ReplyI believe it's me who let my self be stress by the one who is suppose to be there for me , my man but hes emotionally detached,
ReplyNo, what I'm hearing here is that you decided to take the blame for the trouble your relationship is going through. That's not good. Relationships take two to tango and you need to hold the other person accountable. So what prevents you from doing so
ReplyI have question my self why do I have to be the one who is understanding, him hes like quiet, he thinks keeping quiet fixes everything , or be I need to accept the fact that he will never be there for me ,
ReplyYou shouldn't have to be the only one who is understanding, again, a relationship is two people working together. Your needs are as important in keeping this going as his I'd and he needs to put in the work to listen. Ask him why you can't talk to him. Tell him you want an opinion from someone you hold in high regard, let him know you value his input in your life. Never accept being alone in something you agreed on with someone else. You two are supposed to be a team and it's ok to recognize that your partner is lacking
ReplyMaybe it's my fault for always doing things on my own, I never ask him to support me in anyway, now I'm tired sick and need his support, but he thinking that that's how it's suppose to be, like oh she can do all she's better at it, he's emotionally detached from me and my kids, he lives in his own world. 22 yrs marriage it's has been a rollercoaster, all he cares is about money and working
ReplyHm. Well I'm glad you recognize how you affect his mindset when dealing with family affairs. Still, talking is the first thing you need to do. He's detached you say, maybe it's easier than trying to be involved. Speak with him and tell him you need help from the man you married.
Replyright now supposedly hes sick, I feel his in denial after I talk to him about it like 2 weeks ago
ReplySo like, normal sick or covid 19 sick? And what is he in denial about? I think it's better to get all the facts first before coming to conclusions
ReplyNot Covid, hes just saying he feel tired dizzy cold, I feel it's anxiety, he can't handle it when I tell him the truth about how he is to me and the kids, he's emotionally physically detached from me my kids life, then he manipulates me and tries to use the kids to control me, I can't take them camping with family or I can't take them to the park, when I confront him of how he is he gets sick , he denies of the way he is
ReplyHm. It sounds like he's not carrying his weight and leaving it all on you. Unfortunately, I can't help in that regard, the desire to fix his problems needs to come from him and if he denies there is a problem then he needs to choose to see the truth. We can only try to help him do so. How strained is your relationship? Is there any love left? Do you want to stay with him and if so, why?
ReplyHey! I'm doing very well, actually! The only thing that has been on my mind recently is this guy. I have feelings for him and I know he is open to the idea of a relationship with me, but I don't know if we are ready. I know that I am mentally ready for it, but I don't know if he is. There is also the fact that we wouldn't get to see each other every day, as we go to different schools and our lives can be busy between work and extracurriculars. Do you have any advice?
Enough about me, how are you doing?
ReplyTake it slow
ReplyRelationships are never easy to navigate. Especially whenthere's some kind of barrier involved. It's great to see you're not rushing into this without first evaluating whether you and him or ready. That's so refreshing and I'll be honest, that kind of mental preparation is critical to relationships. A relationship always consist of two people, a romantic relationship is no different. Make sure you both understand your needs and wants before committing to eachother. Talk to him about and tell him you'd like to hear what he needs to think about because there will be some rough patches and he needs to be prepared to work with you to get through them. Establish trust and show him you can meet his emotional needs and in turn he can meet yours. You dont wanna be in a relationship where you're doing all the heavy lifting.
I'm assuming you're in high school? Oh the memories. These are the most important moments of your life. You seem to have quite a grasp on your situation and that's pretty rare these days. The most important take away is that dont be too hard on yourselves. There isnt exactly a how to when it comes to getting older if that makes sense.
I am just dandy. Had my existential crisis a few days ago and got the support I needed enough to get back on my feet. So yeah, thank you for asking. Work is alright too, its definitely work. How are you handling, staying safe out there I hope
ReplyI'm glad you are back on your feet! Work isn't always easy, hopefully its not too bad. Thank you so much for the advice! It really helped me out. :)
ReplyYeah, I'm mostly just complaining because I dont like the whole preparation before and after but I get that it's for the safety of the residents.
I'm glad it did and if there's anything else dont hesitate to ask. Stay safe out there
ReplyThanks! you too!
ReplyWell I don't like dumping my troubles on others but since I don't know you, it makes it a bit easier. My parents argue everyday due to financial struggles and it tears my soul apart. I cry in my room but act strong in front of them. Things have gotten to the point of my mum telling my dad to keep us and she will leave to a new place by herself. My dad just agreed and said he'll happily keep us. It sucks because nobody seems to care what WE think and OUR decision. I don't mind them divorcing because it just means they're happier but living without either of them would kill me. Life's been pretty hard on me and I'm just so down. My dad is completely right in the situation, but my mum refuses to believe she is at fault however we choose not to talk when they argue because it is their matter and interfering is wrong. It's just that sometimes I wonder how things could be different. And it affects my mental health. If I hear shouting or arguments between anyone in the street, it triggers me and I just curl up into a ball, shiver and cry. It just triggers memories I wish I didn't have of my parents arguing. I would do anything to go back in time and remove myself from having to see and listen to that.
ReplyLol thats quite the opening statement. Its fine tho, I made this post so I could help out somehow. I intend to do just that.
I often wonder why it's so hard for parents to live by their children. I believe that the moment two people agree to have children, they forfeit being an individual person. That child didn't ask them to be brought into the world so it falls onto the shoulders of parents to work together to get the child through to adulthood. That's how I feel anyway.
I think its important that you say what you need to to both of them. Not at at the same time, but when you get either parent alone, just let them know how you feel. Be honest, tell them how it hurts you, because even if it doesn't keep them together, it will let them know that you're aware of the deteriorating situation. It tells them that yes, their child is smart enough to know what's going on.
Nobody likes being wrong, sometimes people will go through these mental gymnastics just to be right in a situation. And they made their problems yours. You can interject into the argument because they dont seem to keen on hearing how it affects you. So dont be afraid to speak up. I know it wont fix anything between them, but making them understand you as a person is every bit as important to your well being. They're affecting you outside in public, they dont know this and they need to. Its selfish of them to think you're ok with the arguing, the leaving. Its so unfair and you deserve to have your voice heard.
I'd say talk to them, speak up. Just because their relationship is on the edge doesnt mean you have to sit by quietly.
I hope this helped and I'm here if you have anything more or want me to elaborate or what have you. Dont be afraid to comment, I'm always happy to lend a shoulder or advice even if you dont know me. It's fine, really
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