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Hi, to whoever is reading this and I know what you feel because you are here for the same reason I am. I came to this webpage to relieve my stress and get all the anger out of me. And I feel the best way to do it is just tell you my story. My relationship with my parents is kind of hard to understand. One minute we are fine the other we are fighting. I am not capable of controlling my anger when it come to my mom yelling at me for no reason, but then I tell myself it's fine she works all day she can be mad. But, when it starts to get a little too much I can't handle it because, I have 3 brothers and I am the only sister but, I am the one who gets yelled at and blamed for every small thing I do. This is what leads me to be impolite and I don't like that. Everybody tells my mom that she takes too much stress, but today she was stressed over suitcases that we didn't buy yet. Because we are going to vacations this winter and winter is 3 months away right now. I told her (politely) that why are you worrying over a small situation and she started yelling at me and telling me to keep my mouth shut otherwise it will not be good for me. that's when I totally lost it, so I went to my room and started crying because I couldn't control it, it was unbearable for me , getting yelled over for nothing. But I still tell myself that she is a mother and she knows what she is doing so whenever someone close to you fights with you just try to understand it is for your best.
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I guess there are times we cannot control ourselves and allow our anger to take over us. My experience in life taught me that the external events effect to us at a physical, psychological or emotional level at the degree we allow them to effect us. Now leaving the physical part out of this concept as it is something classified as differently than the other two. But it is actually in our hands to determine the level of psychological or emotional effects the external events take place. It is very hard to focus what is happening to you at the time of the anger but doing this more frequently helps you get better at this. The technique I use at these times is to feel the anxiety, anger, fear or whatever you are experiencing rather than running away from it but the key thing is not to allow those feelings to take over you and dictate you to do things unconsciously. Basically you are trying to inject consciousness into yourself at these times. Anger is a very difficult one but the most rewarding one to deal with successfully. You do not have to fight against the feeling. Just see how it effects to your being. Allow it to wear off. Do not feed it by thoughts. Focus into your body. It may feel hard in the beginning but if you can see the feeling in your body, you do not even have to do anything about this. You will improve gradually. And guess what, if you learn to deal with your anger, you can deal with anything. Anger comes very quick, so you have to realise this very quickly and ease down. See what happens to the feeling.
Replyyah same with me if anything happens they put the fault on me cuz im ¨elder¨ it sucks sometimes i think im not loved so i cry my self to sleep
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