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How do you tell somebody you don’t love them anymore after being with them for so long? How do you tell someone that love them but not IN love with them? How do you tell someone that thinks you’re the love of their life that you want to see other people? How do you break the routine of talking to them every day, seeing them most days of the week, sharing every little detail, share the same interests, have the same characteristics.....how do you leave all that behind for possibly something that might not even compare? How do you delete and trash pictures that you have together after years and years of memories. How do you tell them?
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You have to do what feels right in your heart, even if it’s far from easy. Your heart craves more.
ReplyI was once someone who was on the other side of this situation and they told me exactly that. As much as it hurt to hear then, the honesty was the only thing that helped me move on. you should tell them exactly and honestly how you feel. the memories and your past together is just that if you feel this way now its never going to change. it's not easy for either person in the beginning. it really just takes time and learning to let go. those are really hard feelings, and if no one has told you I'm proud of you for following what your heart feels.
ReplyThank you so much for is....it really helps hearing how you were once on the other side( which I’m so sorry for) I can’t fathom breaking their heart after so long, but I have to go with what my heart says, not my head. My head tells me it’s wrong, to stick it out because it’s been so long, to not break their heart because you don’t know what they might do, but my heart is heavy and feels otherwise, and it kills me when I think about it everyday because I know I’m just wasting time letting these feelings linger.
ReplyI think it’s difficult to find someone like you describe. In relationships after some time the lust and ‘’love’’ normally fades from how it was initially. That’s all relationships. If you find someone new and you’re lucky for them to be as compatible as your current person, as time goes on you will eventually feel the same feeling. The initial type of love will fade and you will find yourself craving newness and excitement. Love is being able to stick with someone even after that initial love and lust fades. Love is accepting the flaws of the other person and knowing that things about them will bore you or annoy you. Be open to your partner and tell them you want to change things up, etc. But I don’t think you should leave. You think relationships where people stayed still they became old, the people in it never thought they want to try new things with other people and start a new life or thought about their life without their partners? Of course. But it’s about commitment and respect. You don’t want to be regretful.
ReplyI wholeheartedly agree, never mistake complacency with boredom. Love isnt hard to find, its commitment and respect that are the rarity these days. I use to think I was crazy to think this, glad I'm not
ReplyI agree.
ReplyWhat's not easy is leaving someone that clearly loves you, but keeps hurting you. Their love language is not the same and even after getting to know all their flaws and curtness, it kills you inside to knowing that this person is just not right for you. The fit is just not right, no matter how much acceptance you have for that person. You love them so much, however it's a bit shy from enough. The problem is not committing, the problem is knowing when all you want to do is work things out but in your heart you know that it's over. And you rack your head of why it can't work out, but honestly it's no one's fault.
Horribly enough, I know it's doable but I understand the hesitation of ending things with someone that did nothing horrible to you.
ReplyNever stay in a relationship where you’re unhappy simply because you fear you won’t be able to do better going forward. That’s very self-limiting. You can have everything you want in life. Love yourself and allow your partner the room to find someone who can love them fully too. We all deserve to reach our full potential in all areas of life. Never settle.
ReplyJust say, "I don't want to be with you any more." Then go from there.
Replythis is why I don't date
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