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So hi.
A friend of mine is always putting others of our friend group down, when they share something that puts them into a vulnerable state.
For example(this actually happened):
I have trouble understanding math.
I sometimes feel stupid because of it, but I tell myself that it‘s okay and everyone needs their time.
Well, I complained about not understanding an exercise and he was like: «That‘s because you‘re stupid.»
He said that in my face. I told him that I wasn’t, clearly offended, but he just kept saying it.
Since this day, I‘ve always been a bit more forward with him, telling him to 'shut it‘ when he says something offensive.
I know he deals with some personal issues, but that doesn’t justify his actions.
I don‘t want to directly confront him, but I can’t really keep things like this.
I care about him, but this puts everyone down.(I asked some of my friends in this group if they felt similar and they confirmed)
Do I have any advice for me or something I can do?
Have a nice day ;P
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Maybe it's just that he's really straightforward with all his opinions? I have peeps around me who are like that and they say that they just can't help it. Is he just straightforward with your friend group or is he like that with everyone (other than your friends) ? If he is like that just around you guys then maybe its cuz he feels close to you guys? If I legit don't make sense right now I'm sorry, I'm just not good with words. If he's dealing with personal issues and he keeps all of the feelings bottled up then that is definitely why he's behaving like that. I am like that, I speak without thinking how it affects the others because I am dealing with so much pain. I don't think you can do much without confronting him, or you could do it this way, talk to him about his issues and see how much it is affecting him and then if whatever he's dealing with right now is bad, then tell your friends that he's dealing with some bad stuff right now and that If he says some dumb stuff don't take it seriously, because I don't mean the stuff I say when I talk (the mean stuff). So if you think that whatever I told is not the reason why he is behaving like this and that he is in general like this and like to put people down then you should actually think about confronting him about how much it affects you and the others. Okay so good luck I guess :). [FYI I'm just a kid who knows nothing and is a complete crackhead so If you feel like whatever I wrote is crap then I completely understand]😊❤️
ReplyNo it really helped me! Unfortunately he always behaves like this, to everyone. I guess you‘re right I should talk to him, I personally just hate confrontation, but thank you for your advice!
Have a nice day ♡
ReplyI'm glad to hear that it helped you❤️. Hope everything goes well😊.
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