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I'm gay and I've been watching porn several times a week for many years. First my twitter had become full of porn. I then stopped using Twitter. My Instagram became full of porn and then I stopped using it. The same thing happened with Reddit. I had occasionally gone back to Twitter, Reddit and Instagram, and there was one thing in common: people promoting their OnlyFans. I hated it. Especially on Reddit, where it's a COMMUNITY. I had felt like I belonged in that subreddit and the SFW version. The gay communities on Reddit have been ruined, and there are even some straight men there. The moderators must have changed as it wouldn't fly back then.
I still use Reddit for non-porn topics. I also created a new Twitter and Instagram account recently but can't fit into a community yet and have no one to follow. I don't really use much social media. I had used Tumblr for one year but the community was dying and a bunch of people moved to Twitter. It's a lot easier to enter the Tumblr community, probably because it's so small. I enjoyed my time there. So many great memes were there first.
And recently Pornhub removed all videos.
These events have made me depressed. I wanted to find gay guys like me who just want fun, not money. I had bookmarked so many videos. Hundreds even. They're all gone.
While right now I'm tired of porn, chances are, I'll go back to it. An addiction that I need to stop. I sometimes watch it when I'm really lonely. It'll either stop me from feeling lonely, or make me even more lonely.
Today I've wasted my time going on the subreddits, but came to this realisation that it's an addiction. Porn shouldn't be a hobby. Porn shouldn't fill the void. I don't even know what I want to do for a job, what I want to study, etc. A problem is that studying, getting new hobbies, etc is something that you need to have the stars aligned to do.
Sex is something that you can just be in the mood to do, even if you're depressed. Porn was something that was drama free for me but now that it's tainted with money, I don't feel like watching it right now.
I was also desperate to find someone like me. Porn is my crutch for my loneliness. Not just for a partner but for a friend too. It is also my crutch for all of my problems. It's incredibly unhealthy.
It's my 2021 goal. Stop watching porn. I hope I can get some hobbies or watch something other than porn, like a tv show or something.
And a question for any commenters: What are your interests and hobbies?
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I would suggest watching anime. It really helps. Watching anime for me, is like escaping from my problems, and sometimes fixing them. What's the harm in giving it a try? I could even give you some recommendations :P
Also, you are right. The addiction you are facing is very unhealthy. But it can be controlled. So don't put yourself down as a hopeless cause, just yet.
ReplyWhat anime do you recommend? I've seen my fair share! :P
ReplyWait, you have? I hope we are not talking about hentai here lol.
What kind of genre do you prefer?
Replyno not hentai lol
I'm open to anything really!
ReplyOkay, cool xD
Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood of 2009, is really good. It has its equal share of comedy, action, drama (it gets so sad in between) and fiction. I swear, it's a really beautiful anime.
ReplyI've actually seen a bit of Fullmetal Alchemist!! Thanks for the recommendation! :D I've heard good things about FMA: BH. Got any more?
ReplyDamn, okay, how about Parasyte? Its genre includes thriller and science fiction. And it's like sooo cool!
And you could also try Grand Blue. One of the funniest anime out there, but it does get a little ecchi in between so Idk if that would really work in your favor.
I have another recommendation which is Haikyuu. It's a sport based anime, and I really thought it wouldn't be much fun because I'm not into any sport theoretically. But weow, this anime is like AMAZING. So funny and it pumps you up so dang easily. I had no idea that I would be so interested in sport based anime after watching this show!
Replyits not just porn that this has happened to. even searching tutorials on YouTube for Microsoft products like Excel, Adobe products like Photoshop, Final Cut Pro, etc will bring up some that you have to pay for. 5 years ago, people would upload things for free out of the kindness of their hearts and for the sake of education. Those free videos and even courses have saved me. And now unfortunately even Googling educational stuff brings up paid content. There are a few sources that you have to know to trust. Students don't even have money to give them!!!!
I had seen some guys on those subreddits either hook up or date each other! They used to do meetups then too. I don't know if they still do, but I don't live in America so I could never go there. It was a great community...
ReplyI also like to watch porn, but not at the same level as you. But during a time I started to watch it more and more frequently, I started to read manhua, any genre (there is also one called 'smut' kinda porn, but it has a story and I kinda prefer that than real porn now), or books to distract my mind and it worked somehow. Also I started to learn 3d software, with free software and youtube tutorials, and is so consuming that you don't think about something else. Also I started to learn another language, korean, something like really different than my language so my mind keeps busy (some days I hate it because is too hard hahaha, but it helps a lot)
Replyi can understand what u saying u use as comfort it hard to let go but when it comes tome I am afraid of letting go but this time I will do what is write for me
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