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Breaking the ice

6 years ago · 3 · Advice, +4


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There's this person I notice at school all the time and well he's really quiet and quite shy. He always sits alone and I don't think he has any friends. Anyways, I really want to talk to him and maybe be friends, but I don't know how to approach him without him thinking I'm weird or pitying him or something. I really just want to talk to him and be his friend. Advice?

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  • Novni Guest · 6 years ago

    First step is always

    "walk up and say hello."

    after that, it'll have to depend on what type of people both of you are.

    Also, making people laugh is usually a good ice-breaker.

    But, I'm not a very good conversationalist, so I guess you should take my advice with a grain of salt.

    Sorry if I wasted your time.

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  • Novni Guest · 6 years ago

    Don't complicate things. Just walk up and say "hi" and take it from there.

    Try to find out what he likes and talk about that...as long as you make him feel safe, he'll talk.

    Smile and say "hi" when you walk by him.

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  • Novni Guest · 6 years ago

    Sits alone at lunch? Maybe you can walk up to him and ask if you can join him? If that is too much, maybe just make a point of catching his eyes - make eye contact - and smile. Be sure to look down after a second, or it will seem weird. You will probably feel like looking down after a second anyway. A nice smile and eye contact for a few days, see how he responds and then, if he smiles back, try the lunch table thing.

    Good luck!

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