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I am in love with my best friend, and I confessed to him. he let me down in the nicest way, and we're still friends. I got into another relationship. I think this guy is very sweet and thoughtful and he treats me well. Yesterday, I was pretty content. then when I went to sleep, I had dreams about my friend, and I am unhappy again. I know I'm still so in love with him, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break it off with my bf bc he's wonderful, but if my friend told me one day that he returned my feelings, I would go to him in an instant. He helped me through the hardest times in my life, and he's so patient with me, it's crazy. please help
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Maybe it's more like deep friendship rather than love or you're misunderstanding your feelings. Whenever you remember you love him, think of the time he didn't accept your feelings. It'll make things tough for you but you'll eventually realise the reality and his answer. Maybe you might learn something more about your feelings too.
ReplyIf your friend genuinely wanted to be with you he would be, because you gave him a direct opportunity to do so. Maybe you can start to see that as closure. If you dated him and you broke up you would be losing him as a friend, which would be harder.
In terms of your boyfriend, it is not fair for you to continue to be with him if your feelings are elsewhere. Really think hard: are you in love with the idea of the intimacy and relationship you might have with your friend, or are you in love with him for the person he is. If you are in love with him, and not the idea of him you need to be transparent with your boyfriend. Because he deserves to be with someone that will love him first and choose him first. If you deprive him of the time to search for that person, you are hurting him. Best of luck with finding clarity within yourself, I hope you find the answers you are looking for.
ReplyIt's a bit unfair to your current BF that your heart belongs to another guy - he needs to know. And this way he can decide on his own if he is willing to wait for you - now that's a love story.
Otherwise - the best thing about being a girl is you'll never be alone unless you choose to be - there are always guys looking for love...looking for a girl that is available, both emotionally and physically. Best of luck.
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