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My boyfriend and I met over the internet. I know some people don’t agree with that for multiple reasons but we all have different opinions. We call and FaceTime but I we never are face to face. We send pictures back and forth all the time but I use Snapchat filters because they’re cute. My boyfriend knows what I look like without filters I send no filters once in awhile but I’ve never actually FaceTimed him. I know our face is flipped to other people and I worry he’ll think I’m weird after always seeing “mirror” me on Snapchat. How do I just get over that fear? I know my boyfriend doesn’t care and that whenever I slightly show my face he always compliments me but it still bothers me. I think I might have body dysmorphia because I always focus on how I look and how asymmetrical my face is and sometimes it can stop me from even getting mail outside my door and especially if I don’t look skinny enough I lose it. My boyfriend knows I have these issues I just don’t know what to do.
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BDD is a mental illness and it could be diagnosed too with the help of psychiatrist. So please don't assume anything on your own and if you're assuming then it's bound to affect your perspective about yourself, you might overthink on it and conclude you have BDD. You do have little fear about it but hey! Please don't be so afraid to show yourself the real you. Most of the people don't actually care to look at someone tbh and you'll realise this once you feel free about yourself first. If your man likes you he'll never make you feel worried about your looks esp if it triggers your fear. So don't fear and accept yourself because you're beautiful. Because this is what you are naturally, 100% the work of nature. I'm sorry idk your gender, but bdd often associates with it too and if that's the case then I'm sorry none of my words would've made sense. But if it's your fear about appearance, just know you're beautiful. ✨✨
ReplyI know what it feels like...Even I met my bf online and the first pic I think had some filters on it and then like i wasn't so confident about my skin tone so i said those things to him indirectly and each time he said he doesn't care about it . First time we face time each other it was weird at first mostly because I was freeking feeling shy but then he made me comfortable and was very easy to talk to ... so I'll suggest you to just not overthink about it , he has seen you without filters and personally I think when we talk to people online one might look good af but can be a jerk from heart so it's ur personality what matters so don't overthink about your looks just try to make yourself comfortable when you gonna face time him and honestly no matter how beautiful or skinny someone is there is always going to be someone better than that person and every individual is different on their on so you are ..
Good luck & Stay strong 💜
ReplyIf your bf doesn't care, then hey there's no reason to force yourself to do something you don't like. I hate facetime and I just tell people (my partner included) that "I don't do facetime" and leave it at that. Funny thing is I have no problem with uploading pics and video of myself. I just don't like facetime because there's the anxiety of real time communication coupled with self image issues as well as trying to read the other person's body language ALL THROUGH A STUPID 4" SCREEN and a camera that distorts everything not to mention lousy audio. The point is, facetime is a pale comparison to real world conversations which are natural and relaxing. If FT gives you any sort of anxiety, it's not just you, so don't feel like you're weird or something's wrong with you just because you sense how messed up it is. A lot of us do!
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