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Whaf should I do to my dad?
1 month ago · · Need Advice ASAP,
I have a mentally abusive father. All my life I saw him and my mom got into a fight then reconciled then got into a fight again. My father never hit someone but his words are very hurtful especially if he doesn't like something. I remember a lot of times I got really hurt because of his words and I think this is one of the reason I become really sensitive with relationships and don't like the thought of having another family. I could never forgive those many words he said to me and anytime I remember them, I started crying my eyes out. I still remember the pain. Up until now, he never apologized to me and I'm also not a forgiving type of person. I think he himself didn't know that he did a lot of hurtful things to me. Right now, we're not in a fight but I could never look at him in the eye nor talk to him freely. I don't really want to do anything with him and don't feel comfortable being beside him.
The thing is, I think he wanted to try to be closer to me. He tried to talk to me about random things, went inside my room for a little bit and leave after it, sending random videos to me,trying to give advices to me, etc. Maybe he could mean well, but I started to think negatively on the reason he does these. I also don't like that he went inside my personal room and telling me to do things when I'm already 20. I don't really want to form a good relationships with him because I feel like I can't forgive him. On the other side, I kinda pity and feel sad for him since he's getting older and he and my mom are still working for the family.
What do you guys think?