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I love my parents. But sometimes they just infuriate me.
Ever since I was 9 years old, i've had to help my mom and grandma with household duties, such as doing the dishes, vacuuming, sweeping, tidying things, setting the table and clearing them, doing the laundry, etc.
Now i'm 13 years old and i have to do so many chores. every day i have to tidy my bedroom and shelf, clean the bathroom, sweep the room, wash the dishes, and dust everything.
my brother is 10 years old. he has always been treated like the king. he has his own bedroom, even though me and my sister are years older than him yet we have to share a bedroom. he had his first phone at 5 years old whereas i had mine at 8. he has a ps4, laptop and 2 phones, while i have a broken old phone from my dad and a laptop for school. he gets to play 2 hours a day but me and my sister only one. he NEVER cleans anything. everything, we have to do for him. it's like we're his servants.
even though i DO boss him around sometimes, my parents are always on HIS side.
i do chores everyday while he sits playing his games. it's just annoying how he gets off scot free just cause he's born a boy and i was a girl.
once i visited my grandparents with my family and me and my sister had to do EVERYthing. and when once i told my brother to help me clear the table, my grandma stopped me and told me, 'he's a boy. you're a girl, YOU're supposed to do that.'
it made me angry and i haven't spoken to her the rest of the night. sometimes, my parents are so dumb.
for example, once i was tidying the living room and my brother was playing fortnite. then my mom told ME to pick up a paper from the floor.
i was like, 'why don't you tell HIM that?' and she was like, 'just do it, stop trying to make a problem."
and only HE and my baby brother get to sit in the front of the car even though my sister and i are nearly 4 years older than them. only THEY get to use the special perfume we have.
and me and my sister are told to sit up straight when we're sitting with our legs up, but our brothers sit just like that and my parents say nothing.
once, my brother broke a streetlamp in our neighborhood. it was the manager's property and we had to pay for the damage. my parents barely yelled at him but said he's banned from playing games for 2 days.
the next day, my mother let him play his games.
whereas once, i forgot to clean my room and my mom said i'm banned from using my phone for a week. and she STUCK to her promise.
i hate hate hate that my brothers get special treatment because they're 'boys.'
please help. what shall i do?
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Short answer - it sucks, I fully agree. But the long answer is YOU are the key to change? You are the source of the magic! How do I know? Because I was you once - with 3 brothers and a grandmother who treated them like precious stones who couldn’t lift a single dish, a broom or pick up a piece of paper and a mother who just let the ‘traditional’ way continue to not upset anyone. I wasn’t made for this lopsided treatment, the unfairness.
There’s a old quote that I can’t remember but it basically says you can’t be responsible for changing everyone but you can control you and your behaviour, your voice can start the ripple of change.
I was grumpy, I was angry but I’m the end… I found joking around how my brothers couldn’t do something (oh my goodness how will the cope as adults?! What will their wives think?! Lack of skills! Didn’t learn how to do the basics?!) , kept repeating how it’s important to be equal and fair. I was never rude, always light hearted, always smiling joking laughing - I did my chores but just pointed out how lopsided it was, how embarrassing it was my brothers could just sit there and do nothing. Slowly, very slowly things changed. Be the change you want to see. Show them there is an equal better way, a fairer way. You may not 100% change grandma but you will sow the seed for your brother, he will hear the truth. He will remember what you say. And you will help raise a better man. A fairer man. It won’t happen overnight but be strong because you already are the magic! To see the inequality and unfairness, to raise it - this is the stuff that changes the world! So be patient, you were meant for greatness!
ReplyOMG, gurl. we're the same age. My brother is younger than me, and gets treated so good. he plays fortnite as WELL. And he gets whatever he wants. He goes through my personal stuff, and somehow gets ME in trouble. Whenever I don't want to play with him, he just tells on me. It's so freakin annoying because he gets treated like a baby. My mum says he's "still a baby" when he's only 11. It's so unfair. I get treated the same way you do. Your not alone. I sometimes hate my brother. He gets his ways, and it's unfair. Your not alone, it's ok.
ReplySounds like you got sexist parents. My one brother is treated like that but it's because he's the youngest so he's treated like a baby even though he's 17 now. If it was me I'd call my parents out on it. But my parents aren't very strict and we never even did chores.
ReplyI think it stems from the outdated cultural notion that men earn money while women stay in the home. Maybe it's not that outdated because women rarely get the same career opportunities, but that's a different matter. It sucks. But some parents still cling to it. I'm so sorry you have to live with this. But you won't be stuck living there under your parents forever. Use this as an opportunity to prove yourself (not to them, just to yourself). Make a great life for yourself, you don't need the approval of people who are prejudiced against you. You can get everything you deserve :)
ReplyOkay my mom treats my two younger brothers like kings too. Now that I am the oldest at home I have to clean the whole house. All they get to do is play video games all day and night. They both have xboxs and playstations, animals, they get to leave when they ARE GROUNDED! like dude what? I don't even have a gaming system my laptop broke from of the boys, I got a phone and its broken. I used to have a playstation 3 but the boys broke it and my mom never fixed it. My nana knows what happens here at my house so she treats the girls wonderful. In my opinion I think your mom, and grandma are still back in time where girls had to cook and clean and not be like the men. I hate how we get treated like this. I think you should start changing. LIke a riot ya know? XD just don't do anything bad. Stand up and let them hear your voice, it has so much power so use it.
ReplyThis is so true it's like that in a lot of cultures. They idolize the son and the daughter gets criticized more and has to deal with way more bullshit. Its ridiculous, we can't change our parents or grandparents but for when you have kids in the future you can control that. It gets worse as you keep getting older until you can move out and then let your family do whatever they want. My parents still kiss my brothers ass a grown man almost 40, constantly and he can do no harm. I don't really talk to them anymore over the non-sense.
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