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1 year ago · 3 · Need Advice, +2


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i've tried so hard this year to be more social cause im usually very shy, and i've been hanging out with the ”popular” people in school. the school year is over in few days and one girl is having a party where she was going to invite evryone that usually hangs out in that certain group. i was so excited for this, finally i was going to be invited somwhere (i've been struggling alot for the past two years with the feeling that no one likes me). turns out i was the only one not invited, and when my closest friends asked the girl to invite me too (we figured she just had frogotten to add me to the group), she just said that she ”can't invite the whole school”. this made me hate mydelf more than i already do, proves to me how worthless i seem to be to other people. i'll be alone when everyone else is out partying, including my closest friends. i hate my life and nothing ever seems to go right. i thought it was going in a better direction but doesnt seem so. any advice?

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    Unfortunately life is so much harder in highschool in finding where you stand in the world. Where you feel like you have to prove your existence to others to convince yourself you're worth the life given to you.

    And in all honesty, life in highschool is just a trial and error of people you should use as a lesson for when you enter the adult world. There are people who are NOT worth your time and effort. And those uou will find to trust and devote yourself to. Of course, that comes with experiences of learning those attributes. Its never easy... you will feel betrayal, like the gurl, utter sadness, like you are now, but take this as a lesson....

    Take in what you feel. Ask why you care so much? Are they worth your feelings? Will you care in 5yrs?

    I myself had the same feelings in highschool. I was in a group, but always felt apart, even if we were "besties". 2yrs later, I found true friends and has continued for another 6yrs. It took a while to find, but I can truly say I have 2 of the best closest friends in the world.

    It took me 3yrs to understand that I shouldn't care, and worry about my self care. What made me happy and careless over superficial things.

    Go enjoy something you like that night. Ask someone you haven't caught up with, maybe a family member, it depends on your situation.

    Odk of this will help, but I hope it does ^_^

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  • flowfreely12 · 1 year ago

    Your friend should be like f- that girl and hang out with you. Don't hate your life girls are petty and you just got to be the bigger person. Go have a fun that night doing something your really love or always wanted to do and then tell everyone how awesome it was.

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    Nothing is wrong with you, hon. Trust me. Don't think that you are the one who's wrong here. From what I see, that girl is not the friend you deserve. You cannot please everyone as they say. Being invited to a party does not mean you automatically belong, right? Having a social life and friends is more than just a party. It is about finding comfort with the people whom you can trust. You are doing better actually! This is just an experience. I advise you not to fret about the party because there would be more to come. Don't hate yourself. you are doing great. I hope you find more friends who are really genuine. Don't stop with your "popular" friends! Make a circle of friends whom you would enjoy being with at any moment--- even if it is not a party. Take care!

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