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today is my 18th birthday. i have not celebrated it or even left my house since i was 12 due to extreme fear of the world. i went to a psych ward three months ago, and i feel like i may be able to do things again. i'm still very emotional though; i cry when i'm stressed, have severe anxiety attacks when i'm alone or when i'm near a lot of people, cannot make decisions, and still can't speak to people. it's very hard for me to talk, especially since i don't talk much at home, and i have a very difficult time forming words although i can write just fine. but since i'm an adult now, people expect me to be normal.
i know this day is special. i want to take advantage of that. my family has planned out something that hopefully won't be too stressful. we're going to the mall, picking up some food to eat at home, and bringing a cake home. i won't have to interact with people much, but it will be better for me to be in the public at least (i think.) how do i do all the things i struggle with right? specifically, how do i become more comfortable in public settings? i am immensely sorry for wasting the time of anyone who reads this.
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I can tell you are intelligent but also very young and inexperienced. If you, all of a sudden, became an outgoing social butterfly with many friends and good relationships, after many years you will discover that happiness is not caused by any of these outside circumstances. It is what is left (and always there) when your mental conversations quite down.
You have a lot of opinions about how things are and how you show up in the world. It is a self fulfilling prophecy. Nothing will change for you until you change your mind. Currently, you probably have very little positive stuff to think about and work on. That can change. That needs to change.
You are not your thoughts. They all just come and go. Some linger and return often. These are the ones that you energize initially with your attention and then with an added story and some emotions. All thoughts that get this much energy will persist. It does not matter if these thoughts are helpful or harmful.
So, you need some helpful thoughts. Decide on 2 or 3 things you would like to help make happen in your life. Getting started is much more important than choosing the best priorities. These preferred choices can change whenever you want them to. Write brief summaries about them ( a paragraph or so). Edit these summaries often to make them clear and concise. Keep them close. Read them often (at least daily). Imagine your life as if they are happening now. Feel the joy, the satisfaction, the peace of mind. Now, when a thought arrives that supports you moving toward any of these dreams even in the slightest way, get excited - give them energy. Remember, these are the most important things that you imagine for your self. If some action from you is taken in the direction toward these goals, that is even better.
The not so helpful thoughts can't be prevented and when they arrive they can't be forced to leave. Just let them be there in your mind. Just observe them without adding opinions, a story, or having an emotional reaction. Soon they will dissolve and be replaced because they got no energy from you.
All of life happens in your head. If you want a better life, you start by changing what gets your attention, by changing what gets you excited.
If you respond to my suggestions, I will see it a say more.
Replythis was so helpful to me. i didn't really think of it that way, and i feel like my mindset has changed a little bit. thank you so much.
ReplyIf you have the time, read my comments again and every time you get a chance until it sinks in. If you have any questions, I will be happy to try to answer them. Getting a little better every time you work on this stuff is the best anyone should expect. You are going to be OK.
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