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what would you do

1 year ago · 3 · Need Advice, +2


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my dad left me a long time a ago. I know I have abandonment issues but recently its been bothering me more. I can find my dad and go see him. he is 3 or 4 states away but I can do see and meet him and his new family. but should I do it? I dont know how bad or good it can affect my mental health. should I risk it? tbh I want to go see him just to justify my hate for him. to see that he is a asshole and that I have the rigth to hate him but I know it wont fix me. so what would you do?

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    I havent seen him for about 14 years, I am 18 now

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    Speaking from personal experiences. My dad never cared for me. What's worst my half-brother and sister never cared for me either. He abandons me for 20 years. I decided to cut ties with me. I only used me to get with my mother. In a way, it was good for me. Because I already forgot about him.

    So, first called him or ask him to meet up. If he denies the calls and refuses to meet you at the meeting point. It is not worth it and just moves on. If he does, ask him why and if he still wants to have a connection with you.

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  • lightocean · 1 year ago

    i've same situation like you, i meet him but he dont care about me, he's happy with his life, so im moved on. i walk away like he do, and thats make me happy but im really regret to see him that time, because the pain really hurt me

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