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Last week Tuesday, after i had a good time spending with my cousin sister and her husband by watching a movie. When my cousin sister decided to drive me back home she didn't let me go for 40 minutes because she wanted to know why am i so quiet and why didn't i want to talk to her about my problems that i'm facing. She tried to make it about her, she said "Oh, you must be angry at me, it must be a bout me". AYO WHAT??????. I felt pressurized but, i kept telling her 'it's nothing', 'i don't want to talk about it'. I'll admit, i was so tired and i really didn't feel like talking to her or anyone about my problem just yet. She really didn't seem to get what i was trying to say but kept pushing me to talk to her like i am not going to see her the next day as she leaves her kids for me and my aunt to babysit and she'll be back to pick them but she'll have dinner with us.??? I really felt so uncomfortable at that night. I was trying to be quiet but she kept asking me to say something. She also said that i want to talk to someone and etc. i told her, i'll talk to you but not now, i'm doing fine for now. Those words didn't really enter her brain. I really felt like telling her to F OFF, but she's my eldest cousin so didn't want to cause any arguments. She made me to talk something to her and when i cried so much and wanted to go back into my house she said wait for a while and i should CALM DOWN then i can do back into the house so that my aunt won't find out, which she didn't. I was like WHAT!!!!!!?????. At, the end, she hugged me which i didn't really wanted it but insisted. I was so mad but i kept my cool. To be honest, i didn't really cared whether she was my eldest cousin or not, but if i told her in a nice way to back off , she'll tell everyone in my family and they will show their sour face to me and tell me how "disrespected i am and how spoilt i am". Then i would need to publicly apologize to her in front of my family, then they'll say something that will put me down and she'll be a stiffed necked fool. My family do praise her a lot because she's the eldest and she's doing her DOC. i am proud of her too but i don't boast about her, because i am not that type of person. My family like to compare me and her, i'm the youngest so i get the point, i am not the brightest one, i am kinda dumb but independent and straight forward and brave. but not in their eyes. In their eyes i am stupid and i need to be compared all the time , and if i want to go something or i ask something to my aunt, i need to ask my cousin sister about it????? i don't know. anywhere help and give me some advise.
Cheers.
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They sound like someone who wants to help but is really pushy and doesn’t understand that they are not actually helping at all. I know that people can be like that sometimes, they just want to know every single thing and try to make your business their business. It’s sort of their personality and it does get really annoying and pressurizing. A lot of times, we really can’t do anything about the being compared to issue, sometimes families might think it’s a form of “encouragement” to be your best self, but it can be very annoying and frustrating.
Something you can do is maybe, starting to tell them that you don’t like having to feel so down on yourself . You can tell them, in a polite manner that you sometimes like having your own space. Being more of a quiet, introverted person is completely okay and great even. Sometimes these issues are hard to deal with, and you may be dealing with them a lot.
I am not sure if I was much help, but sometimes you just have to learn that there isn’t much that can be done to change others mindsets, but you can change your own and grow to appreciate yourself, just the way you are.
ReplyThank you, this helps :)
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