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Im confused

9 months ago · 3 · Stress, +24


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Sorry this is nsfw but Idk where to post this so it's going here

I hooked up with my work friend a day ago.. It was me, him and a bunch of other friends/whoever and we were all drinking and talking etc. Anyway I don't think any of that context rlly matters because the main thing is the sort of accidental, drunk, hookup. I feel like trash because #1 omg that was not supposed to happen. I like him and we're kinda friends I guess but now I feel so awkward and uncomfortable when I think about it/him. It makes me so uncomfy 😩

Also.. after it happened neither of us said anything. He just cuddled me for a while and I was falling asleep when he got up pretty suddenly and went into his bathroom (we were at his apartment) his sudden movement woke me up all the way and istg I heard him crying. I just stayed there bc ik he thought I was asleep and he was obviously trying not to let me hear. Even if he wasn't I still would feel weird walking in on someone crying especially since we aren't super close or anything. like I wouldn't know what to say or do and I feel like I'd be intruding. I stayed awake and like 15 or 20 minutes later he came back (I pretended to still be sleeping) and cuddled up to me again. I was awake for a few more minutes and then fell asleep and I'm guessing he did too...... the morning was painful ofc. Lots of awkward laughing 🄲 we joked a little so Ig he doesn't completely hate me..

Why was he crying???? Did I literally make him cry?? Should I ask him about that or never ever bring it up? I have never been so confused or concerned in my whole life. Btw I don't know if his personality matters or anything but he seems to be a very shy, sensitive person so.. did I do something? Or say something? Am I overthinking this?? I don't think I did anything but then again he was sobbing in his bathroom so what do I know 😶 I feel bad now. I want to melt

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  • Novni Guest · 9 months ago

    Idk, seems odd. :/

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  • Anonymous_me · 9 months ago

    okay, if you really care and want to know, ask him; i know it will be uncomfortable for you both, and you feel awkward - but at least you'll feel relieved if you knew what he was crying for. maybe he was in pain, or maybe something personal he remembered..

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  • Megan · 9 months ago

    yeah, just ask. let him know you care about him, and that you thought you heard him crying in the bathroom. let him know he can share with you, just don't pressure him if he doesn't want to talk about it, or if he denies he cried. just let him know you're there for him.

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