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I’ve been riding horses since I was 10 I’m 17 now and I own my own horse. I also work at the barn I’ve ridden at for years. The people at this barn are my family. I love them all and up until a couple weeks ago we all got along so well we would have some conflict but every family does we would resolve it and move on. We worked together amazingly and we looked forward to seeing each other every day. A couple weeks ago that all changed. (All the names in this are fake) Hilary is the head English trainer at our barn and ever since she was hired it seemed like she cared so much about all of the riders and the horses and that she wanted us to be our best. She was never very great with time management but before it seemed like she was at least trying. There is another girl at my barn Melissa who is about 14 or 15 she absolutely adores Hilary and will do anything to make her happy. I feel like Hilary only ever cares about what’s going on with Melissa and never pays any attention to me. She is late to my lessons because she’s helping Melissa with something and Melissa has her lesson right before mine and they always go over time and Hilary barely pays attention to me my whole lesson because Melissa stands and talks to her for 15 minutes after she gets off 15 minutes late into my lesson. I let it go in the beginning because one or two weeks it happening could be a fluke things happen but it has been happening every lesson for months. All I want is for her to pay attention to me for my lesson slot the rest of the time we are at the barn I don’t care if she gives Melissa all her time and attention but I just want to feel like I matter a little bit to her. Today I had a lesson and I was actually excited for it for the first time in a while. I got on my horse a couple minutes early so I would be ready to go when Melissa’s lesson was over at 6:30. Then at 6:30 on the dot Melissa got off her horse and Hilary jumped on. Hilary rode melissas horse for the next 10 or so minutes and barely acknowledged me. She then got off melissas horse and stood and talked with Melissa and Lesley (another girl at the barn) for 5 minutes all while we should be in my lesson. Then she finally acknowledges my existence 15 minutes into my lesson but then immediately another girl starts crying about something and of course the only person she wants to talk to is Hilary so Hilary spends the next 5-10 minutes comforting this kid so by the time she came back to acknowledge me I only got about 20 minutes of my lesson. If this was a one time thing I get it because I don’t expect her to just ignore a crying kid or anything but the fact that every single week something is always going on that is more important than me is so frustrating and at some point all I want is to feel like I matter even a tiny bit to this woman. And I know I shouldn’t care but I do. We work together and spend more hours a week together than we do with our families and I care about her and it just sucks feeling like everything else in the world is more important than you
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Firstly, if you ate paying for her time, she has to give it too you. Or it's a legit waste of time. You should talk to her about this issue. Be mature about it and tell her why your so passionate about riding. Make her notice you! Most of the girls your describing are doing the same. For attention and time. Regardless of anything you deserve just as much as they do. If she can not provide a good student/teacher relationship then find a better teacher. I say this, because you should know your worthily to ride.
ReplyAnd please ignore those baby typose. I am on a cracked phone. 🤣
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