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I think I lost a friend today... A very close one at that. To be fair, he had never treated me nicely in the first place and didn't even meet the bare minimum as a friend. But I kept him around because I really liked him and he didn't have many other friends. He said that I was one of the very few people there for him so I wanted to stay and be his friend. I tried overlooking all those red flags and mishaps he would cause, just so I could continue being his friend. Now, I wish I had not looked over those red flags. Today, I tried to calmly confront him about talking shit about me behind my back. I wasn't angry or upset, I just wanted to talk to him about it. It was the first time in my entire life I had stuck up for myself. It felt good at the time, but now it is making me miserable. He stormed off in anger, frustrated that he got caught. Fast forward to later, he is ignoring me and not wanting to reason with me. I just wanted to have a conversation, not a fight. He is now bragging to the people in his lunch period (not even friends) about how he has "leverage" over me and that he will win this fight. His exact words were: "I'm so f*cking pissed off at her... I will win this fight, I have dirt on her, I'll expose all her secrets." I'm just so disappointed... He started telling everyone what those secrets were and I feel like today, I spent most of my day cleaning up after this mess. He was my bestfriend... I trusted him with everything that is why he knows my secrets. Now, he is trying to out me to the whole school (telling people my sexuality when I am not open about it yet.) And so much more. He can just tell everyone so many things to bring me down. For something so insignificant. This is why I have trust issues in the first place. I am NEVER opening up to anyone ever again. Mark my fucking words. I am done giving others slight trust. I will forever be a mystery I don't care anymore. He was supposed to be a good friend, he was supposed to be different from the people in my past. But nope, he was just like the rest. I am so upset with myself for falling for it again.
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I am so sorry this happened to you... he is definitely not a friend or a good person. I know it might seem like the end of the world, but I promise you that things will get better and you will find friends that are worth risking for. And about the fact he is talking about your sexuality, it just proofs how weak he is and how much better you will be without him. Sending you hugs and positive thoughts
Replythank you so much for the reply! I really appreciate it :) and yes i completely understand what you are saying and I am working on moving on!
Replyi wonder if you're not being patient with your friend and they have got some other things going on, or have simply fumbled up something, as you implied they tend to cause little blunders. if they've stopped talking to you, there could be a perfectly good explanation like this and you're jumping to conclusions quickly. i bet if you wait a few days you might see things clearer and they do in fact care about you. good luck with your friend.
ReplyI am always patient with him, and at the moment I am giving him some space to "cool off" as he wanted. He said he is dealing with some stuff right now, so i didn't pry and just let it be. :) it has been a week though; im sure he needs longer
ReplyI am sorry this has happened to you. That was a really shitty friend you had, good riddance! But not everyone is like that. Don't give up on trusting people ever again just because of that immature person. I'm sure you will find someone you can trust again someday :)
ReplyThank you so much for the comment! I really appreciate it and yes he is a really bad friend and person, I am glad that I was able to see that now. This isn't the first time he has done something. thank you again! :)
ReplyHe is literally garbage. I can not express that enough. Stay away from him. You don't need his bullshit and if he ever tries apologize, don't try to be friends again. Sometimes an apology isn't enough. This person is not worth your time or even space in your mind. Cut him off completely. Don't let any other "friends" like this slither into your life. They are not friends. If someone doesn't even meet the bare minimum of being a friend, don't waste your time.
Never ever ignore red flags. Some people are actually genuine and won't go around back stabbing you just because they're salty little bitches. Be careful who you tell your secrets to. I'm very picky with my friends.
ReplyI'm sorry they betrayed you like that. They sound childish and insecure. Instead of owning up to their wrongs they'd rather make an enemy of you, someone who cared and had compassion on them for not having any friends. which is sad. You are a good person. Never change who you are. Not everybody is like them. You did right by confronting them. They never should have done that. Hugs to you xx
ReplyThank you so much for the reply! <3 I appreciate the support and yes, I completely understand what you're saying. They were mad they got caught! Haha, thank you again! :)
ReplyHey don't push yourself he doesn't worth it
You don't want to be opened to people again and never trust anyone again I agree with that totally .
Listen dear , we are exposed to situations in our lives to teach us that we are too much to people , they don't deserve our kindness or our trust not all of them but the main are .
But don't get that mad it's really unworth it , just live in peace and don't let anyone cross your comfort line easily .
Just let go the past and what has been done cause you can't change it and move on and start over .
And remember if you fail again start over again .. fight for your own comfort .
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