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I have this constant urge to cut all of my friends off. But is it what I really want? No, and it’s selfish anyway. I know they have lives bigger than our friendship and would move on so it wouldn’t be catastrophic. I just hate having friends when I am experiencing a low point in my life and when I am feeling weak. I don’t feel like I am the friend I normally would be and want to be and feel like I need to focus entirely on myself. Basically I want to keep more to myself but it is important to me to not damage these friendships long term. What do I do? Before somebody says tell them about this or speak to them, I DON’T WANT TO. What I am experiencing is not that deep and maybe that is the best option but I do not want to share my life’s minor inconvenience and I feel awkward saying it and don’t feel like I need their support anyway because I already have other people for words of encouragement which is all they would be able to do anyway.
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Then, cut it off. Just know and be prepared for any drama that comes together with it. They might come and ask you stuff, or they would start questioning stuff among themselves. Anything can happen, and you must be ready to face it when it actually happens. You know what you want and need, what's good for you, so do what you think it's right.
Only that, sometimes not all decisions will go your way. It may backfire and cause a lot of damage. But, it may go smoothly and everything will be better. So yeah. Good luck
ReplyFirst, thank you for your reply.
Considering my friends have done nothing negative to me and this feeling is rooting from issues in my side, cutting them off completely is not my best option I think. However, I completely agree in this advice with toxic friends, etc. Thanks again!
ReplyI don’t think you would lose your friends long term if you pull away from them for a bit. It’s totally okay to do that and focus on your self. Your friends should understand. However, if one of them do notice you are pulling back a bit and they ask why, you should be honest and give them a brief synopsis (and mention it’s not their fault bc they might assume it is).
Hope everything goes okay for you!!
ReplyThat seems appropriate. I think I will do something along those lines. Maybe hint it to them first by telling them I have a lot on my plate in case they start wondering. Thank you for commenting.
Replyomg, if you have to constantly supply them with something to keep them happy, they are not your friends, in fact, they could very well be using you. a real friend will not go away because of your temporary abscense, they will understand and respect your needed space. sometimes people need 'solitude', time alone to contemplate their life, their actions and where it's going. a real friend understands and respects this.
ReplyPeople do need ‘solitude time’ to do the things you mentioned. When you put it like that, I generally feel better about feeling this way. Thankfully, I think I have real friends so hopefully they would not go away. Thank you for commenting.
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