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hahaha this is so stupid but im debating on whether i should go to this party or not, im really bad at making decisions, there are many reasons to why i should and why i shouldnt go. first of all, i very rarely get invited anywhere, so it feels nice to finally be included and i probably should go. also, the party is like hosted and for the pople i view as ”cool” and popular in our school and ive for a long time wanted to be one of them. however, im not really in a mood for partying roght now, its been a rough week etc. i also have huuuuge social anxiety and dont really enjoy parties since i usually dont really have anyone to hang with, i just walk around deunk, but still awkward af. i also dont know how to get there, i would have to go alone and i hate the thought of that, considering the fact that everyone else comes with their friends. and i dont know how id get home. but my biggest concern is that if i dont go, i probably wont be invited to many parties in the future. i feel like i should like actively try to give people a good impression of myself and i cant do that if i stay home. sorry, this is all over the place. but what do u think i should do??
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ReplyI think you should follow whatever you think is right. I have social anxiety too and once I went to a party and I really enjoyed it (mostly because I had a friend with me at all times). Do you have a friend who can come with you or someone you know well?? That can ease a lot of anxiety and help you come out your bubble more. If you are not feeling it, you can always go home!!
Also, you don’t need to be a part of the “cool” and popular kids. Finding your own special group is so much more valuable and authentic. I learned that the hard way.
If you go, I hope you have fun!! Challenge yourself to talk to at least one person you don’t know well. If you don’t go, that’s totally okay but make sure you don’t regret it in the long run!
Replyhmmm, to be honest I am a person who has never went to a party before. like highschool/college party. So, I really don't see why parties are even that important to be honest. If you have social anxiety and are going there without a friend it will mostly just end up being a disaster. It could go well, but all the factors you are telling is pointing to the disaster. One thing I know for sure is when I went to homecoming dance in highschool alone. I hated it. I felt the loneliest, since I see everyone with friends and I had no one with me. I tried to stick to a group but since they aren't my friends. it just didn't feel right. However, there are these two "parties" that I went too. another homecoming with my friend, and prom with a friend. Well they were nice memories, but when I was there I always thought to myself this party is overrated. I know for sure that I would have enjoyed a small party where is only between me and my friend more than this. Yes, I do like meeting new people and putting myself out there. However it is something hard to do when you are alone, at least for me it is (and if you know, I am very outgoing). And since you said you have social anxiety than I'm guessing it would be hard to do. Imagine you are just there alone, with no friend, no ride, and you couldn't approach someone to talk to or have fun. and even if you did, it was awkward. Idk, but to me, it sounds like the best thing to do is to not go, unless you had a friend with you. If you had a friend then talking to other people will be easier. It's the thought that hey if you don't like me, I don't care because I already have a friend with me, she's right here, woohooo!!!
so, I see how you are afraid you wont get invited to parties in the future that you might actually enjoy, but I'm sure you would one way or another. The more people you get to know the more of a chance you'd be invited. so, maybe work on that. Go to a party when you actually feel like it. to actually enjoy it. when all the odds are with you. otherwise I see no point.
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