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All of my friends are in college except me

7 months ago · 5 · Stress, +3


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All of my friends are in college right now enjoying their life except for me. I get jealous whenever I see a picture of any of them in their campus especially if it is a medical campus. The reason I'm not in college right now is because I figured what I wanted to do in life too late. Because of time limitation I scored really bad in my entrance exam. Now I have to study another year just for the entrance exam. I don't mind that..... that much. The problem is I've lost all the motivation to study because of all this. I've been trying to focus but it's been a month and I haven't finished a single lesson. IDK what to do. My parents will be really disappointed if I don't get in next year and I've already lost a month.

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  • Love_Nice4213 · 7 months ago

    Hello. I hope you are feeling better!! :( (crying face). Please know to focus on YOU. Everyone gets where they want at different paces. Just because they're where you want to be now, doesn't mean you're any less than them. They're your friends and I'm sure they'd understand you if you talked to them about it and how you're feeling! You''ll get there, I promise YOU. Just keep doing your best, focusing yourself, and doing the most for YOU and your fam. Remember the reason why you are studying: it will keep you motivated. Think once you passed the exam, you'll be able to be in college like your friends! For now, keep trying your best, and know that it Will get better :D

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  • Nonayah · 7 months ago

    I'm in the exact same position as you!

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  • Novni Guest · 7 months ago

    I’m in the same EXACT boat. I’m also not in college right now like all my other classmates. I had to take a semester off because I couldn’t afford to attend my state school (cheapest option too). And I think I might have to take another semester off because of personal reasons. I still don’t know what I want to do if that makes you feel any better.

    I get jealous when I see them making friends or trying new things. It’s disheartening to see that they are doing amazing things while I’m still trying to decide if I’m on the right path.

    Just like someone else said, you need to focus on yourself. Your journey is not going to be the same as any one of your friends. Your path is your path and it doesn’t need to fit what your friends are doing. Keep doing you!!

    Remember the reason you want to go to college. Imagine yourself at your campus and how studying will help you get where you want to be. Sometimes motivation won’t get you anywhere. It’s discipline.

    You got this!! Keep going! I believe in you!!

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  • Novni Guest · 7 months ago

    I was once in your shoes. Remember that comparison is the death of happiness. You must live your life for yourself, not vicariously. Life isn't a race, it's a journey. I started college when I was 23, so it's not too late.

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  • Novni Guest · 7 months ago

    First-year of college, I started late due to a medical injury. But, I received an academic dismissal for not taking college seriously. Work for three years, then came back to college second try at a different college and career. But, my mother's house foreclosed, my grade was slipping and had post-pone school due to financial reason. Two years later, I found an excellent job with limited college education and experience. Able to go on vacation and benefits after a short break from overseas, then return to college for the third time. I kept my academic plan until my unexpected termination from work in 2019 and 2020 and covid-19 lockdown. However, I decided to finish up all requirements for A. A degree and transfer credits to Cal State in 2020 and 2021. In 2020, I received an A.A degree and transfer credit to Cal State. Now. Your parents will not be disappointed if you tell them about your situation or not feeling ready. I know friends who when to a top-ranked university or better in other fields—ending up in a dead-end relationship with partners, unexcepted child, bad choices in life or school, and last give up. Worry about yourself when you see your friends or people. They will be jealous or surprised they you may find it made this far in life.

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