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before the pandemic, I was a well balanced ambivert and feelings of anxiousness was something I rarely felt and i never struggled with it.
since the pandemic started, I don't really get to socialize much except with the people I already knew. i didn't notice anything wrong with that or what effect it had on me
that was until online class started for me.
we were simply asked to introduce ourselves, there was even a format given to follow and yet I broke out in cold sweat and my body temperature was really high. I was trembling all over. and after I introduced myself, I literally cried.
it was very new to me. I performed a lot growing up, even until before the pandemic started. I'd perform in gymnasiums in front of tons of people, alone or with a group, I never felt that kind of anxiety.
even if I was nervous, I was raised and taught to push myself to things no matter how much I didn't want to do it. I also am good at controlling my emotions and I am often levelheaded.
but after that experience, I realized that I've changed. even after months of online class, each time I sit in front of my desk with my hands on my computer, that sensation alone is enough to make me sweat. I don't even turn my camera on.
I thought I'd be fine after a few weeks, but I was wrong. I thought I'd be fine with living like that, I was wrong again.
it's frustrating. because like I said before, I never felt that way. i can't report or recite in class even if i wanted to. the teacher hasn't even started and yet I already have quickening breaths.
I hate it. it makes me feel so weak and helpless.
is there anyone who can give tips or advice?
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Go along with your doctor's advice. He/she can give you medication for this.
ReplyAnxiety is a feeling inside of your body that can be described as a number of different sensations. They are there and they are real. However, the story about why this is happening is made up and when you add your emotional response the sensations only intensify. The made up story becomes the trigger to initiate the sensations and a cycle has begun.
The body has sensations and some are unexpected and uncomfortable. If they persist they may be indicating that you have a medical situation that needs attention.
Anxiety is the name of the story you made up about these bodily sensations. You add the fear and dread of the particular circumstances you've decided are the cause. If you did not have a language to use, you would only have the sensations.
The next time you feel anxious just sit with the physical sensations and let them be there. Try to identify the different locations inside of you that are disturbed. Give the level of discomfort for each a number. Notice if the numbers go up and when they come down. Look at the clock and time this experience - what time it started and ended. If you can, read your pulse rate, blood pressure, and temperature. Write this stuff down so that you compare these numbers to the last occurrence and / or the next occurrence. Don't add the story. Its just sensations. If there is pain that is unbearable, take some medication that might help. If these sensations persist, consider seeing your doctor but don't make up the story about why any of this is happening.
All thoughts come and go, including the ones about your 'anxiety'. They all need the energy you provide with your attention, opinions, imagination, and emotions. This applies to good, bad, helpful, and harmful thoughts. Some leave almost as fast as the arrive because you gave them nothing - no reaction at all. Their arrival does not make them legit, your creations , or automatically meaningful.
You are not your thoughts. You are not the mind that has the thoughts. You are the awareness that should manage this most necessary and powerful thinking instrument. You are the gatekeeper who decides which thoughts are worthy of consideration and initiating your actions.
I can say more about how this if you want me to.
Replythank you for taking time to write this! and I'd appreciate it 😊
ReplyWhat I've offered so far is a lot to unpack and digest. I would prefer to hear if this perspective is helpful and to try to answer any questions you have regarding this view.
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