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3 months ago · · Need Advice
I have a friend who always needs help, and in response I am always the one pulling my hair in order to help them out. At the beginning, being able to help someone who is in need gives me a sense of value and happiness. But, now it feels like everyday is on repeat - constantly getting asked for advice - and honestly I am already drained. In reflecting I am not completely sure if it is the questions are getting on my nerves. Perhaps it is the feeling of being unappreciated for the lengths I go to help. Regarding academics, as my friend is low in confidence and yet competitive/prideful, he would not admit (at least not obviously), when the results he achieved were fundamentally a product of another person's insights. Personally, I always attempt to give credit when credit is due, by saying: 'I did well because so-and-so helped me with this part etc'. Understandably, I know that people show their appreciation in different ways, though sometimes it is hard if not impossible to see. Furthermore, is it really fair? Is the appreciation shown too little for something I spent ages to accomplish......? All I am after it just a 'thanks'....just some acknowledgment. Should I be feeling this way? Any advice is welcome :)