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sexual thoughts

1 year ago · 6 · Need Advice, +3 · Explicit


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recently, my intrusive sexual thoughts have been getting much worse. I've had them in moderation since I knew what sex was, but it happens at least twenty times per day now.

I could go on about the situations. My ex-best friend being railed by her crush, my crush getting railed by me, popular minecraft youtubers fucking each other, my PARENTS having kinky sex, or even my teachers jerking off. The list goes on.

I'm a teenager, so these thoughts are natural as I am discovering my body and sexual preferences, but it still feels disgusting.

The thoughts are always in the back of my mind, and I can't switch it off. I can often switch from something down-right horrible to something a little milder (like switching my teacher to my crush or something.) but it's. always. there.

I'm always horny as well, because I recently realized how great masturbation was. I am no doubt sexually frustrated as well, because I am too young to have sex with anyone. And I'm sort of a loner so I don't think anybody would want to have sex with me anyways.

I don't know how to stop any of this. Maybe I'm not supposed to, but I feel so disgusting all the time.

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  • WinterGuard · 1 year ago

    using a resource like this is a great place to start. Don't feel ashamed of these thoughts because if you do that could lead to making you uncomfortable with sex. Use this journal as a place to write about this thoughts, figure them out and become a bit more at ease with them

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  • airplanes1231 · 1 year ago

    This is not an uncommon feeling for a person. You are not alone and for you to be seeking help/venting about your problem is the first big step to solving it. God speed my friend, I am sure you will turn out ok in the end

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  • lonewolf01 · 1 year ago

    There’s a reason why you feel disgusted and it’s bc your soul knows it’s bad idk how to explain it but I’m not trying to be a Christian freak. I do have to say that that it’s most likely bc something is telling it’s wrong ( God) anyways you can disregard this comment but that’s how I feel

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  • aylaegan · 1 year ago

    you are growing you are transisitioning into adulthood and i'm sure this is really really normal mastrubation is completely normal so don't feel bad about mastrubation its a better way of you releiving this frustratoin right now. As you said you are young i don't your age but you know its not right to act on these impulses or to force anybody else to do so all i can say is you are completely normal, enjoy this time, mastrubate and don't feel so guilty those hormones will settle down again for you before you know it!

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  • Mirage · 1 year ago

    Not sure why you feel disgusted by all of this but I'm guessing it's because you feel you're doing something wrong. I remember, when I was younger, not sharing such things or admitting to such activities in our little groups of friends because I assumed they would think lesser of me, tease me for my actions, or tell me I'm doing bad things. A few years later, however, while still in school, we opened up and started talking about these things and, to my dismay, we had all been doing it the whole time. Ha. What a settling feeling that was because I no longer felt like "a bad person".

    Many have commented here and they are all correct - what you're going through is natural and everyone likes something different, sexually, so don't think too ill of yourself for the fantasies you've been having. It's just important to note that what arouses you may, in fact, repulse others. But, if it makes you feel any better, some of their fantasies would probably gross you out as well or simply not turn you on at all.

    One day, you'll be able to experiment and/or cross the bridge with a sexual partner and there's nothing wrong with that but remember to do it safely by using protection and any other precautions you possibly can so as to prevent pregnancy and the possible spread or STD's.

    Much later in life, if you are having too many fantasies too many times per day or your sexual desires become addicting the point that you are missing work or time with others because you are fulfilling some sexual need, then it may be time to see a doctor. I actually know of two people (one is a woman in case anyone is wondering) who take medication for their addition to sex. That said, this is extremely unlikely, certainly nothing you should worry about at the moment (or the next several years even) but making you aware that some people have a true addiction and it interferes with their functioning life. Your current situation is quite normal and not nearly as bad as you may think it is so I'm giving you something to compare it to here in hopes that will help you calm down a bit.

    Good Luck!

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  • MyN9m3is___ · 1 year ago

    Society has made sex seem like some sort of disgusting sin, and that belief runs so deep through our veins that even if we can't explain why, it makes us feel weird.

    Even I, myself, as I'm typing this, am a victim to the statement above. I feel guilty and disgusted by my thoughts when there's absolutely no reason for me to be.

    Its natural. Different for every individual, but it's natural. There's no need to be ashamed of this <3

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