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Extreme push-pull dynamic “come here-go away” dynamic is stressful and unhealthy

1 year ago · 1 · Relationships


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If you want your partner to be close and coiled up again, the best thing you can do is…nothing. Don’t pull. That will only make them stretch out more. In their own time, they’ll snap right back again, ready to be all coiled up with you.

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    yes, but with each coil and recoil you become tattered and torn until you realize this person who makes you constantly beg to be put to use or in a constant state of waiting, they no longer exist. you can no longer even picture them for all the times you've simply worked yourself without them, you forget even how they look to your waiting eyes.

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