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i’m curious to know what ppls thoughts are on dating in high school.
to me i don’t think it’s worth it but i would love to hear other ppls opinions.
currently i’m a senior in hs and i just don’t see a point to it. for starters imo i feel like everyone is just going off hormones, not actual “feelings”. i also feel like you never know what the other persons intentions are. you could be looking for a serious relationship but the person ur dating could be doing it for fun ultimately ending the relationship before it even begins. but we’re young so there’s not much thought of marriage and what not. now that i’m looking for colleges to go to it’s another obstacle for dating. you could be dating someone and once ur off to college u don’t know if they are being faithful to u. it doesn’t matter if ur not the jealous type it’s always going to be in the back of ur mind that they could have a crush on someone else. i feel that the cons outweigh the pros.
but if i have all these reasons for not dating, will there ever be a good time to date?
off topic:
although i’m like 90% against dating in hs, for some odd reason i’m kinda crushing on someone and idk why. ofc it’s natural but it came out of left field. idk if she likes me too but that’s a whole different story. it’s just odd to me that i would consider it since one big thing from stopping me is that i don’t have my life together.
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Yeah dating in hs is bad idea. They dont understand about being nice, respectful,and what it means to truly understand or why standing up for yourself is important. They just like someone and willing to give everything they have to show they care about them which isnt always smart plan
ReplyYeah dating in hs is bad idea. They dont understand about being nice, respectful,and what it means to truly understand or why standing up for yourself is important. They just like someone and willing to give everything they have to show they care about them which isnt always smart plan
ReplyHello stranger. You are very wise to acknowledge the negative aspects of being in a relationship during high school - more times than not we don't end up with our high school sweetheart, it is just the reality of circumstance.
In my personal experience, I dated a guy from my sophomore year of HS to my second year of college. He was my first love, I loved him very deeply but we were not compatible in the long run and I knew there would be a better match for me (he also was emotionally manipulative and immature, so there's that). I found myself very unhappy and knowing I could do better and left him. Unfortunately I've found that it takes being in a couple relationships before you really find what you want in a partner.
So to answer your question. I believe it is unwise to get into a serious relationship in your senior year of high school, seeing as you'll be moving next year. Pain is inevitable when you get into a relationship or fall in love, especially when you're young and likely won't end up with someone. My advice is to choose who gives you that pain wisely. Be SUPER picky, do not settle, do not be afraid to reject people or set boundaries, do not ignore red flags (especially this). A mistake we make when we are young is settling for any attention we receive. Only give your energy, time, love, and compassion to someone who is extraordinarily worthy of it. Move super slowly in relationships, take a long time to commit to someone when you are young - we are especially vulnerable when young to being taken advantage of in early relationships because we don't know what love looks like and can be overwhelmed by our first experiences of intimacy. Take this time to work on loving yourself and you will be doing yourself an incredible favor later on when you are looking for someone.
Relationships teach you valuable lessons about yourself; they teach you where you need to improve on communication, how your childhood trauma has carried over into how you attach to people, how you desire to be love, what makes you upset, what makes you vulnerable, etc. For that reason if you do find yourself in a relationship you will learn from it, you will grow from it. Do not be afraid to love, only to love the wrong person for too long of a time. Choose wisely. Date around casually, enjoy learning about new people, protect your peace, and most importantly put yourself before any others.
Have fun with your crush, treat it lightly and respectfully. You say you don't have your life together, I don't know the extent to which you mean but external aspects always seep into your relationships. If you are worried about the other aspects of your life do yourself a massive solid and work on those! When you get into a relationship it takes away time from your self-growth because you have less time to spend on your hobbies and interests and improving your mental health/sense of identity. Whatever happens, you will be okay, you will be happy, you will get through any obstacle. Have fun, enjoy your life!
ReplyYup, what you think is right!! Dating in high school is not worth it. You can't predict the future. A relationship needs stability and teenage years are the age of instability. However mature you think you are, teenagers are immature. It's better to date someone when your life, is stable both mentally and economically. Otherwise if you're ready to get heartbreaks HS is the best time.
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