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Hello,
ever since I started dating my adventurous boyfriend, which loves speed, I’ve realised how scared I am. Not of the speed in particular, but the feeling of not having enough control. I am delaying getting my drivers license due to that problem, I don't want to drive a bike unless it's flat terrain and this Friday he invited me to go skiing. I skied a little in my childhood but then stopped. I tried it again two years ago and it felt very uncomfortable.
I don't know if that's that one thing where you have to struggle at the beginning but then you are free from the fear (”you start living when you get out of your comfort zone” type of thing?) or should I stay out of it because it's just not for me.
Any recommendations?
Thank you!
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Give it another go, and if you're still uncomfortable then you would have proven it to yourself and him. That way you've done your part, and know what actions to take from there. Then, it's time for him to get out of his comfort zone and try to understand the real you. Thrill seekers don't have in their system to differentiate thrill and uncomfortable. They don't understand people who are not like them. I think this is more than just fear and control, but being truthful to oneself and to others. But if you enjoy it, enjoy it... if you don't enjoy it, don't enjoy it. Not sure if I'm making any sense, hahaha... hope this gives some clarity.
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