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theres this guy
i really really like him. ive liked him for a really logn time now, and were on out like 3rd talking stage which has lasted over 6 months total probably. i really want us to end up together bc i really like him.
last time we talked, we had been talkign for like 2 months straight, and he randomly stopped texting me. being really mad, i sent a HUGE long ass paragraph basically telling him he sucked, and he responded w i tried to kill myself a few days ago btu sorry for not texting u back. we stopped being friends for a while.
but now im back in his life inevitably, and so i reached out to him two months ago to clear the air and now were great. he has pretty shitty mental health, which makes me so sad that i cant do more to help him, because he really deserves the entire world and i wish i could help him stop feeling the way he does. he explained a lot to me when we first started talking again, but now hes starting to close off a lot.
hes responding less when i know he sees my messages, he responds a lot less slower, and our texts is a lot a lot of my triple texting or more. i know it very well might be hes not in a great headspace rn, so i feel like i am so so selfish for feeling this way, but i wish he just did a little more. i would honestly drop so much to be with him.
i want to talk to him about how i feel. how i really want him to ask me to be his girlfriend. how i wish he would tell me more about him. how i wish he could give me some indication of him not talking as much isnt bc hes sick of me or doesnt like me anymore. how i wish he could be okay. how i wish i could be a part of his process to be okay.
its selfish i know. and i really dont wanna lose this guy. but can i really a) say this? and b) keep my relationship w this guy when saying this??
i just want him to be okay. but at the same time, i dont want to keep holding onto something that isnt there. i dont know what to do.
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A Similar thing happened to me. We were madly attracted to each other and would talk a lot but stop suddenly after months and talk again after weeks. He was happy at times but sometimes I felt like I bothered him because of his interest less texts and I feel like he was feeling depressed or sth but he wouldn't tell me, now that I think abt it I never really asked and it was always him who texted first. And we stopped texting completely now its been 3 months. We still see each other here and there And Idk if there's still hope but I don't even wanna talk to him bc I know I can't get him to open up to me. Sorry I ranted my own shit on your post but if I had to tell you I think you can be bold and approach him and say how you feel. Know that he loves you and probably needs time. Be his happiness.
ReplyHe could be depressed or/and have more wrong with him mentally than he is letting you know. He has already said he tried to suicide and if he isn't getting any help he is in a terrible state. The way to help him is to urge him to get medical help by him talking to a doctor where he can get a referral to a professional if he needs it. Only contact him if he asks you to because he might need space and time to recover. If you are thinking of fixing or helping him yourself you can't.
ReplyYou care about Him. The one thing you can do is try to help him. Before you can be his girlfriend, be his friend. Let him know you are there for him if he needs anything. Hopefully someday he will find the right help from himself. If you are strong and bold enough to find out your answer. Tell him personally (not text) how you feel and that you want to be there for him to help him. Only then you will truly know. If you are unwilling to do that, then you will be stuck trying to figure out things and overthinking. You also have your health to think about (physical,mental…) I also encourage you to not think likes movies as well ..that he’s the one true one..or that you can be his cure…life without him is a life not worth it... This is real life and everyone is different. There’s different type of love ❤️ You love him ♥️ But that does not mean that you will have a life with him. If in the end, this guy is not meant for you, it will be heartbreaking indeed but I hope you find strength to move on and live your life and know that you did the best you can for him. Blessings from me to you :)
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