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How to deal with wife who wants to abort our child? She told me that it’s too much of a hassle to carry a child, too uncomfortable etc.. I told her that I can’t stomach this kind of decision and if she aborts, I told her that I will leave her. Surprisingly she’s fine with it without hesitation. She’s fine with me leaving her.
She’s fine with throwing away 7 years of being together because she doesn’t want the hassle of carrying a child. How do I deal with this? In my country abortion is a crime. She is fine with committing a crime and throwing away our relationship in exchange for not going through any hassle like wtf
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You two should have discussed how you both feel about having a child. You two are clearly not on a same page about this topic. You have respect her decision and leave this relationship if that's what you want if she doesn't give you a child.
ReplyIt's her body and her decision.
ReplyWRONG
ReplyOffer to carry a lot of the load of child care if she does have the baby.
ReplyIf she didn't communicate this before becoming pregnant, and this is taking you completely by surprise, that is a serious red flag. If she is willing to "throw away", as you put it, seven years together over this, then I would say that she is not the one. It is her body and her choice, and I personally believe in abortion rights, but you two are clearly on entirely different pages.
ReplyFemale here and I agree-- it is ultimately her decision what she decides to do with her body. If she really is so casually "fine" with throwing away your 7 year relationship as you described, she sounds like a shit woman and you should probably just dump her ass now and start healing.
I definitely agree with others who noted that this should have been a topic of discussion YEARS ago in your relationship, and if you intend to continue the relationship, you should definitely think about what other topics you two may have failed to communicate about it before it's too late.
If you would like to make one last effort with her, try to have an open and peaceful conversation about what aspects of pregnancy and/or parenthood are so troubling for her and try to see if there are any ways you could compromise with her and help take the load off and make it an easier process for her. Perhaps she will be willing to meet you half way? I have very little information about your situation, but its food for thought. If she can not communicate her perspective further than referring to pregnancy as a "hassle" (she's right, it is a hassle, but that word just seems too casual to me it sounds a little sketchy...), then I would reiterate that she's a shit woman and you should move on.
Best of luck to you!! <3
ReplyIt's only seven years. She's got to see the longer term.
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