Is it my fault?

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• Novni Guest · 4 months ago

  Hey- It's totally normal to be anxious about whether or not your guy will be cheating on you. The best thing you can do is show him that you love him with all your heart and that you'll never betray him. It's okay to talk about it- If anything, he'll be pleasantly surprised to see that you want him to be just yours. If you become very obsessed or suspicious and constantly question him, that may make him hurt or pressured.

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• Bug · 4 months ago

  If you're anxious about it, talk to him. Don't accuse him, just express your anxiety and would appreciate some assurance. Relationship trust can be hard, but putting faith in your partner not to cheat or go behind your back is important, albeit hard. Sometimes we need some reassurance that our partner isn't going to betray us. It's okay, as long as it's not constant. Try to remind yourself each time you begin to worry that your boyfriend chose you over the girls from your high school, so what are the chances he'll go for a girl in his college over you? He wanted you, and likely won't cheat on you.

  Of course, that doesn't completely eliminate the chance of it. It's impossible to be sure it could never happen. But we need to have faith in our partners, give them our trust. It can hurt to have your partner frequently think that you're going to cheat on them, as much as it hurts for them to be anxious about the possibility that you might. Give him your trust. If he ever did cheat, it'll hurt a lot. You'll probably break up. You'll be okay after some time, I promise. Not completely over it, but okay. And you'll likely find someone else for you, in time.

  TLDR; communicate your insecurity to him and ask for reassurance, but also try to have faith in him and his loyalty. He chose you, not someone else.

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• HEYO · 4 months ago

  well, I think it's normal to feel the way you feel. It's not crazy, because if we are being honest with our selves. Being distant with someone , results in forgetting, how important that person is. But the more important they are to someone the stronger the bond will be. And if the bond was strong then no, he would not look at another person ( that is if he is loyal). You know your bofriend best, and if you believe that you guys have a strong bond then you good. If you feel like you should talk to him about it, then I don't see why. They way to having a healthy, and strong relationship. its through communication. and if he truly loves you then he should reassure you, that he only has eye on you. that he doesn't want to waste a gift that was sent from god. and that its against his values. He should understand. That's my opinion. I hope I've helped.

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• osidefever101 · 4 months ago

  Yal just graduated? Dang. Well here is a reality check. Assuming you live in America, culture is super sexualized. Its in music, movies, everywhere. Now combine that with hormones and sexual drive in the human body, self-control is minimized. You honestly have to accept the fact that your not the "prettiest" girl in the world and he isn't the most "attractive" guy. Sea is huge with plenty of fish. My honest advice, have the benefit of the doubt that you guys will eventually move on by the time your 25. In my community i've encountered two or three couples that been dating since high school which was like 10+ years ago. Best of luck to you

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