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I'm tired and my anxiety climbs the closer I get to going back to a church service, not because of the pandemic though. I've went to the same church all my life and there are good people there, they have helped me so much at times but they also can gossip and talk badly about other members. Recently a family has had a lot of health issues, they are bad, some members are gossiping about them about how they should be at church. They can't even go to work, so I doubt they even have the finances to do much. But for some reason instead of being concerned people talk bad about them.
Another situation where our youth leader had an eating problem, she got it under control and lost a lot of weight. Which is great for her, but now if you have even a little bit of weight on you or enjoy food she talks down to you about it. How everyone needs watch their weight and how enjoying food and talking about what we enjoy to eat is wrong. "We're making it and idol" she says. I'm sorry if I enjoy the rolls and butter at texas roadhouse but dang they are good and I might get to eat there once a year. She shouldn't make her problem an issue for all of us and then try to make it a sin. She also doesn't like opinions that differ from hers and she mothers everyone. Multiple people have had issues with it and said something but she hasn't listened.
Recently my husband had surgery and had been out of work for almost 3 months now between healing and the holiday leave, we haven't had much money coming in. Barely making it at times and he didn't have insurance on top of that so we have some pretty hefty bills coming in. Thankfully he just went back to work. But we missed church for awhile because he couldn't do anything. And then we didn't have the money, so our car insurance ended, our phones were cut off, our water cut off, we didn't have gas money even if we decided to take the car out recklessly. Some people from our church gave us a lot of food and we are very thankful for them. But the majority didn't call or ask how we were, they just made comments how we were like the other family missing service all the time. My husband has emergency surgery and they say something like that, we were struggling to make it. It was so bad I had to ask my mother for a loan, she is in prison and that money was for her lawyer to help reduce her sentence. I have never felt more like trash in my life.
Our church is very small I have known these people all my life and they have always been a big part of my life. But this past year it's like I don't even know them anymore. They have changed and if I don't go along and deal with it then I'm the bad guy, I'm the sinner. I'm just at a point where I don't want to go and be a part of it and deal with the gossip and the comments. And then if you say something about it to them they will make it out like your the one that is wrong and I just don't know what to do.
I have cried and stressed, my anxiety is so bad over it, I don't want to go back but if I don't these people who I thought loved me and cared won't have anything to do with me and my family. But then again they don't now even though we are having a hard go right now. I'm lost and I don't know what to do.
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This happened to my mom, too. My parents used to go to church, and they liked the one they had found. My mom eventually became pregnant with me, and she had to be put on bed rest for months and couldn't work, so money was a bit tight. After I was born, it wasn't much better. My mom still needed to be on bed rest, or at least stay home to recover. During this, the church called them. But instead of getting a voice of concern about where my parents have been, they were blasted for not attending church. My dad was the one who answered the phone, and he explained to them the situation. They insulted my mother for not coming despite the impact of her pregnancy. And after they were done with that, they told my father that he could still attend church and should have, and that he should be taking their daughter too (I have an older sister, she was 4 at the time). They were adamant that my older sister has to be attending church as much as possible. My father was enraged, because he needed to stay home and take care of my mother and my sister whenever he wasn't at work, and he couldn't believe the insensitivity of the church. They never went back, and haven't attended church for years, not consistently. We don't have time, and my mother has become frustrated with the amount of rude and mean Christians she's met where we live. The other people from the church bad mouthed my mom when she left. My mother doesn't consider herself a Christian anymore, though she still feels a connection to Christianity. My father is still Christian, but not a very devout one.
My dad's parents have also faced insult and insensitivity from the churches they've attended, and had to switch churches many times. Neither of them have been attending church for a while, partly because they're tired of having to switch churches, partly because they've become too old to attend regularly. They feel that they can be faithful christians even if they don't attend church. They pray to god, respect his beliefs, they try to be good people, ect. I'm so sorry to hear your church is doing the same thing. If you have any other local churches, maybe you can give them a look and see if switching might be a good choice. The people from your current church aren't people you should keep in your life. You'll meet other people who are hopefully better. And please know that if you decide at all that you won't attend church anymore, that doesn't make you bad. You're still following your religion even if you don't attend church. Your health is more important than staying in a place that is stressful and toxic.
ReplyChurch is about you and God. All of these "believers" are just wolf in sheep's clothing. Even if you don't go back to that church. I whole heartedly believe God will still love you and walk with you. These people clearly don't have your best interests at heart, so what they say doesn't matter. I hope that you make it through this hard time.
ReplyBummer. What do your base faith upon? Are you guys a bible teaching church? Anyways i would just simply change churches and if they condemn you for it, then its a cult. Churches should never hold you hostage. The mission field is all over the the world.
ReplyRemember the church is within you. If you don’t feel comfortable going back to that church, go to another church. Or watch church service online. Jesus is within each and everyone of us and all u need to do it worship and fear him. Any “Christian” that is condemning and judging you or others is NOT a true representation of Christ for Christ is farrrr from judgmental. He loves us regardless of our situations and offences. If you can talk to someone about it, do if not do what’s best for you and ur family ! Wishing you the best.
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