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Feelings and Reason

6 months ago · 3 · dating, +1


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I was kinda liking this guy from work. Let's call him R. We went out to eat, and I got to know him better. Well, I realize, we really wouldn't work. Our belief systems/religions are very different, and the reason I would go steady is to hopefully get married in the future, otherwise, I don't see the point for me. So, that's that. R went back to college for the semester, and now yesterday I heard from another guy at work that R is sad because he thinks I won't talk to him again now that he's going back to college. Well, that hurt my heart. I don't want R to think I hate him, because I think he is a wonderful person. He can be a bit insecure though, which is why I worry. But, rationally, I know if I text him out of the blue, I could give him hope that we could work as a couple, and I don't want to do that only to crush him in the end. The guy at work told me I should talk to R more. Well, I would agree if I knew we'd work out. All I can think about is how me texting him would cruelly string him along and give him false hope. I can't do that to him.

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  • Novni Guest · 6 months ago

    True.

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  • arirose · 6 months ago

    I feel you(not going to spill all personal reasons to why i feel you). It's good that you know the consequences, but instead of giving him hopes to talk to you, maybe you should go and straightly talk it out to him? Talking helps, ignoring keeps the problem temporarily stepped out. Talking it out, would make him aware of the situation and maybe you both might come out with a conclusion as well, I am not sure of course, but that's what I think.

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  • Novni Guest · 6 months ago

    Just be honest with him

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