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I don't like to make eye contact. Any ideas about why that may be?
2 years ago · 4 · questions, +5
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Sometimes eye contact makes me really uncomfortable. It just feels wrong and I have the strong urge to look away. This comes and goes over the course of the day, in some situations I feel comfortable, in others it's a big issue.
I don't feel like this greatly affects the way I am perceived, though eye contact is a social sign kind of thing. I'm friendly and talkative, so people come to trust me other ways. My friends are also just really cool and supportive, so I can always tell them when eye contact is making me uncomfortable and that that's the reason if they notice me looking over their shoulder or something while we talk.
I was just wondering what this is? Is this normal? It's not distressing to me, but I do want to understand why I am the way I am.
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if it's you, you should know. why you asking us? i don't make eye contact because it's a sign of disrespect as if you hold yourself in the same prestige as the person in front of you, that you might not even know. i humbly decipher if it is a person on my level, who i could trust, and also who is okay with such a gesture because some people have damaged souls and it diminishes them when someone looks at them deeply. you can't just assume people are okay with it. besides, some people are just ugly and I don't want to look at them--kidding.
ReplyNah it's not like a respect thing. It's perceived as respect/disrespect sometimes. I as because I actually have an aversion to eye contact and while I can manage it in my life, I just wonder why I might have these feelings.
ReplyHi there, I have no idea why some of us have trouble making eye contact, but IT'S POSSIBLE TO CHANGE. No lie, kids used to make fun of me for never making eye contact (they even made up a stupid song), and then one day I just got mad and decided I'd stare everyone down all the time. It worked! Now I don't consciously think about it anymore, but making eye contact is second nature. And as a bonus, I always get compliments on how my eyes look :) So there is hope. You just need to force yourself to stare at people, even make a joke out of it like I did, then suddenly it'll feel normal. Good luck!!
ReplyIt feels bad though. Like, I just want to look away so bad because it's so uncomfortable. Staring people down sounds like a good idea, but I think it would make me upset in the long run.
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