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(long post ig but please help 🥲)
My boyfriend introduced me to his friend a few months ago and at first everything was normal and he was really friendly. Then he started slipping random, subtle, flirty comments into our conversations (just me and him because he's around alot so 1 on 1 convos are bound to happen). I just ignored it and thought oh that was weird but whatever. Now it's been getting to be too much and it's making me uncomfortable and anxious. For example, on Christmas he got us both expensive gifts and mine had a note with it. It was... more than friendly. It wasn't nsfw but it was still more like something you'd give to a date. My boyfriend's note had normal stuff on it.
Me and him (bf) vent to each other and comfort each other etc. mostly because of his stressful job. I want to be honest and tell him about all of this before it gets worse, but I don't want to add to his stress. I also don't want to ruin their friendship because this guy is really the only good friend he has atm. He had always stuck by his side. Tbh it makes me sick to think that he really doesn't even have this friend because if he's flirting with me, he's obviously not that good of a friend anyway.
All of this makes me really sad and down. I don't know what to do about it. I just wish everything was normal. I want everything to be peaceful and chill. I want to be friends with his friend but I can't if he's going to make things weird. I just hate this and I need advice on everything
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Try talking to his friend about it. Be frank and honest about how you feel with his flirtatious messages so that he gets a clear idea. I think that you should find a good and proper time to tell your bf about this issue. What if it escalates to an issue which is filled with lies? For eg: maybe his friend will turn around and say that you flirt with him first, who knows?
Anyone can find friends anywhere and anytime. It's just the matter of finding the right ones. Some can pretend to care about you / hangout with you. Those are acquaintances who are bored in life and wants "fun". If his friend can do things like that to you behind your bf's back, he is not a good friend worth keeping for.
Replyyou can't choose your boyfriend's friends. there should be clear boundaries about who is what, or you are simply leading blind people into chaos and then gaslighting them by claiming they did all sorts of things wrong, when you are teasing or the creator of such drama in the first place.
ReplyIf I was the boyfriend, I would want you to be honest/open with me about this. I would feel terrible if my best friend were making my girl feel uncomfortable. I would want to know so that I could protect her. I would also want to know that my "friend" was doing things behind my back before things get worse. I'm sorry you're going through this, because no one should be treating you this way. Honestly, the way I see it is that it would be best to tell your boyfriend. I have a feeling he would want to know what's going on.
Replyok here listen to me. Be honest. It might suck for your boyfriend, but honestly it sucks not knowing even more. Put yourself in his shoes. would you like your boyfriend to keep things from you. Like with time he might just think that your cheating on him or something, since it took you long to tell him. like misunderstandings happen when we keep stuff from one another. If the friend is flirting with you secretly, who knows what he is doing behind his friends back. Yes maybe he will lose a friend, but he has you. He should just try to find a better friend. but maybe give it to him little by little, be like you know I'm not trying to accuse your friend, but he's very flirty and it makes me feel uncomfortable. don't just accuse the friend right away, but let your boyfriend know slowly, maybe? well you know him, and what happened, so you'd know better. but just think about how you'd tell him.
ReplyTell this guy that you are uncomfortable with his approaches and that they must stop. Tell him you are prepared to record a future conversation as proof of his behavior that can be used along with his notes to reveal his motives. Tell him that if it comes to a complete stop, you will forgive and forget that it was ever this way.
ReplyYou should confront your bf's bsf and then be honest with your boyfriend about it.
ReplyThe next time his firned flirsts with you, tell him to fuck off and leave you alone
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