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Does anyone else have this problem?

1 year ago · 4 · Unrequited Love


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Does anyone else ever have the terrible habit of saying “I love you too” because you feel it is expected of you?

I have people say they love me, and I feel like it is an automated response to say I love you too. I can’t even say that 100% of the time I mean it. But what do you say if someone says that to you and you don’t necessarily love them back?

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    It depends on the situation.

    It also depends on your (and their) definition on love.

    Personally, I can say it back without looking into it too much, kind of like when someone asks ‘how are you’ and you lie ‘fine’. If you don’t plan on having that conversation any time soon, there’s no point making them worry.

    However, assuming you’re talking about a romantic relationship here…why are you with someone you don’t care for?

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    • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

      Some people reply with "fine" becacause they actually ARE fine. Not everyone lies.

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      • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

        Some people lie and say they are fine because someone is watching them and monitoring their responses. They are more afraid of the abuse that results from giving an honest answer.

        And, yes everyone lies. Some are worse than others, but still everyone does. You can’t tell me you haven’t participated in a surprise party. Because that is a form of lying to the person the party is for.

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    • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

      I was not referring to a romantic relationships. They are more acquaintances or people I don’t really know or just met. What do I say to those people?

      I was in one relationship where the guy refused to leave my house after I broke up with him. He continued to stalk and harass me and even told people we were still together. My family laughed in his face because they knew I had broken up with him over month earlier. I literally had to start dating someone else for him to get it. But I stopped responding I love you too to him before we broke up. So I know the difference.

      My question is what do you say to the ones you don’t know or are unsure of?

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